Dalai Lama Calls for Tackling Difficult Emotions

In his birthday message last week His Holiness the Dalai Lama said, “Much of the turmoil we witness across the world occurs because people are overwhelmed by disturbing emotions that can be difficult to tackle. I believe that the rich understanding of the workings of the mind and emotions that we find in ancient Indian traditions remains relevant today. There would be great value in examining and applying this as a basic human discipline, and not from a religious point of view. Just as we teach physical hygiene to stay physically fit, we need to cultivate emotional hygiene, learning to tackle our destructive emotions, so as to better achieve peace of mind.”

The Dalai Lama also expressed that he would be grateful if we would like to help him in sharing these ideas with others. For me, as a spiritual helper, his words resonated deeply, because I feel like I am already doing the work that he calls for… I am very inspired to help others in tackling their disturbing emotions.

Do you struggle with difficult emotions? If so, I hope my blog posts are helpful to you… And, I am really looking forward to sharing my new book with you, because it is really in alignment with the Dalai Lama’s call for us to tackle those destructive emotions.

Recently I made a list of 23 possible benefits you may gain through reading my new book, Reaching for Orange: Practices, Visualizations, & Blessings to Help You Happy Up Your Life… I will share that full list with you soon, but here are a few benefits that are related to the Dalai Lama’s request… When you read Reaching for Orange, you will learn tools to help you ~

~ work effectively with anger.

~ ease loneliness, depression, and despair.

~ release traumas that you have absorbed from others.

~ find comfort and peace during times of grief.

To learn more about my new book, which will be published soon, please read my post “Double Coffee Days Ahead.”

To read the Dalai Lama’s full message, please click here: Dalai Lama’s Birthday Message.

 

Photo of Dalai Lama from his Facebook Page.

 

 

 

 

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Love Thy Neighbor

Do you ever feel bothered by your neighbors? If so, perhaps you will be able to relate to my story here…

My intention is to send loving good vibes to my neighbors, even when – no, especially when – they do insensitive things that affect me negatively. However, when their carcinogenic cigarette smoke, toxic lighter fluid fumes, heart-breaking smells of dead animal flesh cooking, and offensive sounds of foul language all waft on the nice breeze across the property line and in through my open window, my best intentions are seriously challenged.

As I close the window, I feel irritation and anger that once again I cannot get fresh air and hear the lovely birdsong. I know that the negative energies arising in me are not healthy for me, and I do believe that energies radiate out to others. But, it is one thing to understand the energetic principles involved, and a whole other thing to be able to practice loving kindness in the moment of feeling triggered.

If you also feel challenged by your neighbors, here are a few practices that can help you to find equanimity, love, and compassion…

At the moment you first feel triggered, pause and witness your emotions with loving attention. Breathe, and cultivate compassion for yourself first. Next, remind yourself that the other person is doing the best they can with the light that they have to see by. They probably are not even aware that their behavior is bothering you. In fact, they might even feel bad if they knew that they were causing you grief.

Try to let go of any judgments you may be feeling towards them. And finally, send them love, compassion, peace, and healing energies. Notice how much better you feel after doing that. Kindness and compassion transform you, and they feel so much better than irritation and anger.

I hope this post was helpful to you.

 

May All Beings Be Free of Suffering.
May All Beings Be Happy!

 

Orange rose photo by Alexas Fotos on Pixabay.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Are You the Witness Today?

Every moment we have a choice: get caught up in what’s happening, OR be the Witness of what’s happening.

Getting caught up can look like anxiety, fear, anger, shame, guilt, grief, jealousy, disappointment.

Being the Witness can look like Peace, Patience, Understanding, Acceptance, Gratitude, Compassion, Love, Happiness.

Are you the Witness today?

 

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Parts Work for Difficult Emotions

Are you in regular communication with all of the different parts of yourself? Did you know that talking with your different parts can help you to navigate difficult emotions?

Parts Work means just what it says: working with your parts!

Parts Work is an effective technique for working with grief, anger, anxiety, fear, shame, jealousy, and any other difficult emotion. You pretty much just have conversations with all the different parts of you. So, you say, “Hey, angry part of myself, what’s going on? Why are you so angry?” And then you listen to the response before recognizing that the angry part is just one part of your wholeness. You then dialogue with a more positive, happy part to see how they are doing. I mean, why is that part still feeling so happy even though the other part is so angry?

Isn’t it so interesting and fascinating to examine how complex we are as feeling beings?

Parts Work helps to develop your strong inner coach, the one who can rally your parts into teams that support each other to work it all out. Parts Work also increases your Self-Love, because it helps you to understand all of your parts and to have compassion for them.

Have you experienced the healing benefits of working with your parts? Or are you new to this practice? Please share in the comments below, down where it says “Leave a Reply.”

May All Beings Be Free of Suffering.
May All Beings Be Happy!

 

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Guided Imagery Exercise for Difficult Emotions

Are you dealing with any anxiety, fear, anger, or grief? If yes, this guided imagery exercise will help you to ride the waves of those difficult emotions until they shift or dissolve.

Sit or lie down in a quiet spot. Take a few relaxing breaths, and then begin. First, tune in and notice where you feel the emotion in your body. Second, ask yourself what that emotion feels like, looks like, and sounds like. What color is it? What texture? Is it heavy or light? What shape is it? Does it make a sound? And third, using your imagination, create a healing antidote, and notice what it feels like, looks like, and sounds like.

For example, let’s say you are feeling some anger passing through your system, and when you tune in, you feel it in your gut. It feels gripping, and you notice that it looks like heavy black tar with spikes. The shape reminds you of a panther’s head. There is a growling sound, as if it might jump out and bite you. So now create a healing antidote to this angry cat in your gut. You might imagine a warm glistening white light entering your belly and surrounding the black tar. This white light is soft and dreamy like floating clouds, yet it carries a strong healing energy. It settles down over the black image, and as it does so, you might notice that the black tar begins to shrink. Bathed in the healing energy of the white light, the anger begins to fade.

This exercise can be done repeatedly until the difficult emotion shifts or dissolves altogether. After you try this out, please come back here and share your experiences in the comments below, down where it says “Leave a Reply.”

To illustrate this exercise further, here is another example. I made up the first example, but the following one comes from my life. I am carrying a grief in my heart that is so deep I often wonder if it will ever heal. Recently while lying on the Amethyst Crystal Biomat, this guided imagery arose:

The grief in my heart is like sharp heavy stones covered with thick mud… and now a bright orange radiant light is entering my heart… it is like warm, smooth, orange stones… and fragrant orange flowers… and sparkling orange jewels… and glittering orange stars… and it is shining and glowing so bright like a warm healing fire… and day by day it is taking over my heart, so that little by little those sharp, heavy, muddy stones are falling out of my heart, down into the earth… down into the hot ball of iron at the center of the earth, where they are exploding and burning up in the hot iron… and, more and more I am healing in the radiant orange light that is spreading in my heart and throughout my whole being… and it is radiating out to all the beings in all the realms…. 

Can you feel it?

 

 

Image credit: NASA/ESA/Andrew C. Fabian