To Goal or Not To Goal

So, my dear good people, are you going to make goals for 2020?

In 2019 I was all about making goals, and while I did achieve some of them, there were quite a few that I had to let go of due to changing circumstances. Can you relate? Did you make goals for 2019? If so, how did they turn out?

Recently I re-read a fun little book called The Tao of Pooh by Benjamin Hoff, and he had this to say about goals:

“Each time the goal is reached, it becomes Not So Much Fun, and we’re off to reach the next one, then the next one, then the next. That doesn’t mean that the goals we have don’t count. They do, mostly because they cause us to go through the process, and it’s the process that makes us wise, happy, or whatever. If we do things in the wrong sort of way, it makes us miserable, angry, confused, and things like that. The goal has to be right for us, and it has to be beneficial, in order to ensure a beneficial process.”

Hoff then explains that moment of awareness before we achieve a goal:

“It’s when we become happy and realize it, if only for an instant. By Enjoying the Process, we can stretch that awareness out so that it’s no longer only a moment, but covers the whole thing. Then we can have a lot of fun. Just like Pooh.”

So how can we make goals that are right for us?

If you’ve been following my blog for a while then you know that at the end of each month I do a review of my journal and calendar, and then I set keywords for the new month. Perhaps you might like to do this also… It is a wonderful way to practice self-care, and it helps you to continually discern which goals are right for you.

When re-evaluating goals, it is good to remember that many goals are ever-shifting and evolving. While goals give a sense of direction, the path may change many times. And sometimes it ends up being best to abandon the path of a goal altogether and to find a new direction.

Today I am going to spend some time reviewing the year in my journals and calendar, and then I plan to set some keywords for 2020. Those words will be my guiding lights for the year, and I will share them with you in a post very soon!

I hope you enjoyed my year’s end thoughts on making goals… By the way, this was my 252nd post in 2019! Cheers to Blogging!

Are you ready to say good-bye to 2019?
I sure am! 🙂

However you celebrate tonight, may you be happy, joyful, and safe.

Happy New Year’s Eve to Everyone!

With so much love,
StarFire Teja

 

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Happy Thanksgiving from StarFire Teja!

 

Happy Thanksgiving to all who celebrate!

May All Beings Be Free of Suffering.
May All Beings Be Happy!

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Pumpkins photo by Suju on Pixabay.

 

StarFire Teja’s Three Super Simple Spiritual Practices

The following practices are so simple that you can do them throughout the day: when you are waiting at a stoplight or waiting in line somewhere, or when you are using the toilet or washing your hands. It helps if you decide in advance when you are going to do these practices. For example, you might plan to do the first practice each time you have to wait and the second practice every time you wash your hands. You could also decide to do them when you are lying in bed, right before you fall asleep at night, or when you first wake up in the morning.

Super Simple Spiritual Practices You Can Do Throughout the Day:

1. Choose to be happy. ~ This one I keep repeating because it is so important. We really can choose to be happy. Per the Upanishads (a collection of wisdom by the ancient mystics of India), the mind is the means to happiness. We really can decide to be happy. This doesn’t usually happen immediately, but if you regularly tell yourself that you are choosing to be happy, then over time it will become true for you. So to apply this in your daily life, try this: every time you have to stop at a red light (or some other time you have to wait), think to yourself, “I am choosing to be happy.”

2. Mantras, affirmations, blessings. ~ Take some time to write out a few phrases that you want to focus on throughout the day, and then decide when you will think them to yourself. For example, you might decide that you want to silently bless each person you meet, so you could write a blessing, such as “May your life be blessed with goodness” and then throughout the day, as you meet people, you could silently think towards them, “May your life be blessed with goodness.” For another example, if you are feeling some depression, you might write an affirmation such as, “Every day in every way I am feeling better and better,” and then you could intend to think that affirmation to yourself each time you wash your hands (or some similar activity).

3. Cultivate a celebratory mindset. ~ Most people enjoy celebrations. When we celebrate our birthdays and other holidays it is as if we go out of ordinary time and into magical time. For this reason we look forward to celebrations and then feel a bit deflated when they’re over. So why not cultivate a celebratory mindset on a regular basis? Throughout the day, at previously decided times, think to yourself, “What can I celebrate about myself or my life in this moment?” Whatever comes to you, take a few seconds to visualize it surrounded by bright balloons, banners, and colorful lights. Remember that 1980 song “Celebration” by Kool & The Gang? That oldie-but-goodie sparks joy for sure! Enjoy it here: Celebrate Good Times, C’mon!

May All Beings Be Happy!
May Your Life Be Blessed With Goodness.