To Goal or Not To Goal

So, my dear good people, are you going to make goals for 2020?

In 2019 I was all about making goals, and while I did achieve some of them, there were quite a few that I had to let go of due to changing circumstances. Can you relate? Did you make goals for 2019? If so, how did they turn out?

Recently I re-read a fun little book called The Tao of Pooh by Benjamin Hoff, and he had this to say about goals:

“Each time the goal is reached, it becomes Not So Much Fun, and we’re off to reach the next one, then the next one, then the next. That doesn’t mean that the goals we have don’t count. They do, mostly because they cause us to go through the process, and it’s the process that makes us wise, happy, or whatever. If we do things in the wrong sort of way, it makes us miserable, angry, confused, and things like that. The goal has to be right for us, and it has to be beneficial, in order to ensure a beneficial process.”

Hoff then explains that moment of awareness before we achieve a goal:

“It’s when we become happy and realize it, if only for an instant. By Enjoying the Process, we can stretch that awareness out so that it’s no longer only a moment, but covers the whole thing. Then we can have a lot of fun. Just like Pooh.”

So how can we make goals that are right for us?

If you’ve been following my blog for a while then you know that at the end of each month I do a review of my journal and calendar, and then I set keywords for the new month. Perhaps you might like to do this also… It is a wonderful way to practice self-care, and it helps you to continually discern which goals are right for you.

When re-evaluating goals, it is good to remember that many goals are ever-shifting and evolving. While goals give a sense of direction, the path may change many times. And sometimes it ends up being best to abandon the path of a goal altogether and to find a new direction.

Today I am going to spend some time reviewing the year in my journals and calendar, and then I plan to set some keywords for 2020. Those words will be my guiding lights for the year, and I will share them with you in a post very soon!

I hope you enjoyed my year’s end thoughts on making goals… By the way, this was my 252nd post in 2019! Cheers to Blogging!

Are you ready to say good-bye to 2019?
I sure am! 🙂

However you celebrate tonight, may you be happy, joyful, and safe.

Happy New Year’s Eve to Everyone!

With so much love,
StarFire Teja

 

Fireworks image by moritz320 on Pixabay.

 

How’s It Going With Your 2019 Goals?

Setting goals is good, but sometimes it can be a set-up for terrible heartbreak, especially if the goals were set too high.

For example, one of my goals this year was to sell 1,809 books by March 31st, which was set too high given the reality that I had no publicist and no budget. Even though I knew it was what some call a “stretch goal,” I’m still feeling a tad sad about it, so I am grateful that I have many tools for working skillfully with difficult emotions.

Are you feeling sad about any of your goals not panning out? If so, you might benefit from using my two best tools for working with the sadness of disappointment: Cultivating the Witness and Practicing Gratitude. Both are described in the extensive list of spiritual practices at the beginning of my book, The Tejaswini Ramayana: The Way of Rama in the Shakahara StarFire Universes.

When re-evaluating goals, it is good to remember that many goals are ever-shifting and evolving. While goals give a sense of direction, the path may change many times. And sometimes it ends up being best to abandon the path of a goal altogether and find a new direction.

So, how’s it going with your 2019 goals?

 

May All Beings Be Free of Suffering.
May All Beings Be Happy!

 

 

StarFire Teja’s Prayer This Day

 

May the Great Mystery gift each of us
with all the miracles, magic, and mojo
that we need to achieve our goals in 2019!

Making goals and working towards them is an ongoing process that we don’t just do in January. When reaching towards our goals, if it feels like reaching to touch the stars, it may be time to re-evaluate and be open to changing our goals. Sometimes there is a feeling of freedom when letting go of an old goal that is no longer in alignment with who we are now.

This year I am birthing a new version of me, and I have set some high goals for 2019:

1. By March 31st, sell 1,809 copies of my new book, The Tejaswini Ramayana: The Way of Rama in the Shakahara StarFire Universes. (Only 1,799 to go!)

2. By December 31st, attract 19,000 followers to this starfireteja blog. (Only 18,995 to go!)

Since I do not currently have the funds to hire a publicist, these goals feel a bit like reaching for the stars, but I’m reaching out anyway and I’m open to miracles! Somewhere deep inside me, I still believe in magic, even though I’ve been through many hardships over the past 9+ years.

So how are your current goals feeling? Are you reaching for the stars this year?

 
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