Monday Morning Musings on Money

Some people say that all anxieties and fears arise from the fear of death. Do you agree? I’m not so sure I agree.

My first musing has to do with tracing anxieties and fears to their root causes. Do you ever do that? When I follow mine, they do not seem to arise from fear of death, but rather from fear of poverty… And a step up from that fear is the fear of sickness that can lead to poverty.

When I am feeling miserable due to chronic health issues caused by Fibromyalgia, I do not feel afraid of death at all… But what I do feel is extreme anxiety about not being able to work, and fear of the physical discomforts associated with poverty.

My second musing is what it feels like to actually have money. Do you have lots of money now? Do you appreciate it and enjoy it?

Throughout my adult life, several times I have had the good fortune to experience having money. I appreciated it so much each time, and I loved being able to buy whatever I needed at any time… But what I enjoyed more than being able to buy myself things was being able to give generously to others. I loved buying someone a plane ticket or sending them a special gift package. Can you relate to this? Do you enjoy giving generously to others?

My third money musing is about why some people have lots of money and others don’t… The speculations here are endless, but a few ideas come to mind: fate, karma, destiny, magic, astrology, luck, charm, skill, mojo, family inheritance or genes, law of attraction, and so on. What do you think? Why do you think there are billionaires on this planet, while there are poor people living in shacks with dirt floors? What is really going on here?

My fourth musing is a heart-warming story I heard years ago about a wealthy man who enjoyed walking down the city streets giving out one hundred dollar bills. He loved to see the surprised and joyous expressions on people’s faces!

Remembering that story led me to have this fantasy: Perhaps some wealthy person will find my blog and feel inspired to purchase one thousand dollars worth of copies of my book on Lulu, Reaching for Orange: Practices, Visualizations, & Blessings to Help You Happy Up Your Life, and then they will go out on the streets giving them out! Spreading the Love! 🙂

My fifth and final musing for this morning is based on the title of a children’s book called “Are You My Mother?” Some years back, when my financial difficulties began, I got this idea that it would be so wonderful if we could somehow match up wealthy people with visionary mystics… I jokingly called out “Are You My Millionaire?” Then I posted this question:

Are you a millionaire looking for a mystic to sponsor?

Keeping a sense of humor is key when you are feeling any anxieties or fears!

Dear reader, I hope you enjoyed this post.

May All Beings Be Free of Poverty and Suffering.
May All Beings Be Happy!

 

Photo by Ray Hennessy on Unsplash.

 

Dark Medicine Brings Brightness of Mind!

Dear readers,

Welcome to our brand new decade! I have seen some labeling it the “thriving” twenties, and others calling it the “roaring” twenties… Do you have any other name suggestions for this brilliant new time?

How did your January 1st begin?

My day began with the usual Fibromyalgia symptoms, which make it very difficult for me to get out of bed, so my mental state is not exactly bright and cheery… But after eating something, then I get to make my happy black coffee, which almost always shifts things for the better. (Please see my post “Coffee Is Good Medicine”)

Today, right before taking that first sip, I whispered, “Dear black coffee, please merry me up, happy me up, gratitude me up, and beam me up!” And it worked! Before that cuppa, my thoughts were very dark (I was crying and actually wishing to die), but after drinking the dark medicine, my mind brightened, so then rather than dwelling on all of my difficulties with Fibromyalgia, Misophonia (triggered by sounds), and extreme HSP-ness (Highly Sensitive Person), I began thinking about how I can continue to win this daily battle with darkness.

Dear reader, if you have been reading my blog for a while, then you know that I am all about daily spiritual practices that help us to Happy Up… I even published a book on the topic! (Please order your copy on Lulu now… Reaching for Orange: Practices, Visualizations, & Blessings to Help You Happy Up Your Life)…

So in addition to my daily dark coffee medicine, I also chant (usually along with Krishna Das CDs), send healing energies out, repeat mantras, and sit in silent meditation. I do these practices not only to help happy up my own life, but also as a service to others. I believe that the powerful energies created by spiritual practices ripple out and benefit many beings!

This morning I set only one keyword for the month of January: Loving-kindness… I intend to be more loving and kind with myself and with others, in my thoughts, words, and actions. (Soon I will share my keywords for the year!)

January is usually a highly creative and fun month for me, perhaps because I was born in January… But this year I am feeling a bit challenged because I will turn 50 years old on January 29th, and I am not where I wanted to be on my 50th birthday! Five years ago, when I imagined my next “milestone” birthday, I knew for sure that I wanted to be in Arizona on my 50th birthday… But now, due to unrelenting hardships, my dream of standing on the holy red rocks of Sedona will probably not come true… There must be a reason (or many reasons) why life is not unfolding easily for me now…

And thus, the daily battle with the darkness! I am ever grateful to the Force of All Light for the magical coffee beans that grow on this sacred Earth… and I bow humbly with deep gratitude for the daily spiritual practices that sustain me and beam me up!

Thank you for witnessing my experience on day one of 2020… Can you relate to anything I shared?

Let’s Happy Up Together in 2020! 🙂

With determination,
StarFire Teja

 

Coffee beans photo cropped by StarFire Teja.
Original photo by Alexas_Fotos on Pixabay.

 

Facing My Blogging Reality

Dear readers,

With just two days left in 2019, how are you feeling about the goals you were reaching towards this year? I’m a bit embarrassed to admit this to you, but one of my “stretch” goals for the year was to attract 19,000 blog followers. (At least I can’t hear you laughing now!) 🙂

Well, I didn’t exactly make that goal… But, I am truly grateful for the 133 people who are following the StarFire Teja Blog today… And yesterday’s post was my 250th post this year, so I celebrated that achievement by going back through and reading all of my posts… And I have to say, I feel quite pleased with my work…

And, in looking through my binder of blog post ideas, I came across the inspiration for today’s post: an article written by Christian Mihai on The Art of Blogging back in August, entitled “Why No One Reads Your Blog (and What to Do About It).” After reading that post, I decided that I needed to face my blogging reality…

… And the reality is, I am not putting in the amount of hours of work that it would take to have a successful blog. The main reason is the same reason that I have failed at numerous career attempts over the years, and that is the debilitating symptoms of Fibromyalgia slow me down and prevent me from being able to work at the levels of time and energy that I would otherwise be capable of…

… And, a secondary reason is the same secondary reason that I have failed at so many past endeavors, and that is I do not like marketing, promotion, and sales. Please see my previous post, “Realizing (Again) That I Am Not a Salesperson!” In that article I wrote that as I face the reality of this body’s limitations, I am finding that writing is what I can do… I work for the Forces of Goodness and I have good intentions to be helpful with blog posts, even if I don’t have the mojo to promote them widely and well!

In my post “Defining Your Purpose” I shared that chronic illness and not being able to work is seriously challenging my sense of purpose, but I am determined to master this situation and to somehow be of service to others. And, I am doing all that I can, so perhaps this blog will not ever get much bigger… unless by some miracles!

So, dear readers, I am shifting the focus of the StarFire Teja Blog to being a blog of service, without the “stretch” goal of expanding its reach… I will continue writing because it is fun and because it is helpful to a few people… In 2020 I won’t be trying for any specific goals, but rather I will just be writing with the intent to be helpful.

As a spiritual helper on a mission to help elevate the human species to healthier and happier vibrations, my promise to you is that every day I do practices to happy up my life, and I will continue to share helpful tools and insights to help you to also happy up your life.

Thank you for reading the StarFire Teja Blog!

Let’s Happy Up Together in 2020! 🙂

With gratitude and loving-goodness,
StarFire Teja

 

Reaching for Orange to Happy Up… And Centering in Brown to Calm Down…

Hello dear readers!

The rain is falling and I am cozy in my tree-house temple, making the best of a migraine morning. I lit a few candles and I’m sipping hot black coffee in my happy orange mug! Despite feeling sick, I am delighted to be here writing for you.

In my new book, Reaching for Orange: Practices, Visualizations, & Blessings to Help You Happy Up Your Life, I write: “On the Hindu Yoga Path, Orange symbolizes the Fire of Renunciation, the Orange Fire that burns all the external desires, attachments, and expectations that cause suffering. Once those external causes burn, the internal happiness is experienced.”

Daily spiritual practices help to burn away those external causes of suffering… And spiritual practices do not have to be complicated or take a lot of your precious time. I have been doing daily practices for more than fifteen years, and I have found that being relaxed and flexible with the practices is what enables me to keep doing them.

Some of the practices I do daily to happy up are from the Hindu Yoga Path, but others come from other traditions. This Summer I embarked on a study of the mindfulness teachings of Zen Buddhist Master Thich Nhat Hanh (see my previous post, “Peace Is Every Step”), and those teachings are helping me tremendously in working more skillfully with my mind as I deal with the debilitating symptoms of Fibromyalgia.

At Thich Nhat Hanh’s Plum Village monastery in France, the monks and nuns wear dark brown robes, and I find that color to be very soothing. Do you also feel calmed by the color brown?

(You can see their brown robes in this video: “Namo Avalokiteshvara Chant”)

Somewhere along the studies, it came to me that I am Reaching for Orange to Happy Up… And Centering in Brown to Calm Down!

In his book Peace Is Every Step, Thich Nhat Hahn suggests a simple breathing practice: “Breathing in, I calm my body. Breathing out, I smile.”

Here are two more simple breathing practices that you might enjoy doing, especially in stressful or tense moments ~

~ With the in-breath, think “Happy Up” and with the out-breath, think “Calm Down”.

~ Breathing in, think “Calm” and breathing out, think “Down” and as you think “Down” imagine breathing down into your legs and feet… And then imagine your energy flowing down into the ground… Imagine breathing down into the sacred Earth… And feel your entire being calming down…

I hope you found this post helpful!

With boundless love,
Teja

Photo of orange leaves on brown ground by Aaron Burden on Unsplash.

 

Letting Go of Trying to Be the Best

Dear readers, are you trying to be the best at something? If so, are you succeeding?

What motivates us humans to try to be the best at things?

In my life story, as a young stay-at-home mama, I wanted to be the best mom ever. Looking ahead, I had a vision for our two sons’ adolescent years, in which our house would be the hub where all their friends would want to hang out and eat all the great food I would prepare for them…

Well, that plan seriously did not work out, because my former husband and I divorced when the boys were 3 and 6, and as we began the two-house reality, I quickly discovered that my highly sensitive nervous system could not handle a lot of crazy kid energies in a small cottage. And then I changed to a plant-based diet, so our sons preferred the food at papa’s house. My goal of being the best mom crumbled as I struggled to just be a “good enough” mom.

Then, when our sons were in high school, I went to hypnotherapy school and I decided that I wanted to try to be the best hypnotherapist in the world so that my sons would be proud of how successful their mama was in her career…

Well, that plan seriously did not work out either, because the debilitating symptoms of Fibromyalgia kept me from being able to work as much as I would have needed to in order to succeed. And also I moved to a really big city and I could not handle the noise and traffic. My dream to be the best hypnotherapist fell apart, and I came home to live with my parents as a boomeranger, which isn’t exactly a status for the sons to be proud of!

Somewhere along that trajectory, I realized that my sons love me anyway, just for who I am, and so I don’t have to be the best anything for them.

But for myself… I still want to be somebody and to do something.

Can you relate to my story?

 

Photo of Mama Teja and her younger son Gabe, by the Ohio River in Newburgh, Indiana, during his visit last week! 🙂