To Goal or Not To Goal

So, my dear good people, are you going to make goals for 2020?

In 2019 I was all about making goals, and while I did achieve some of them, there were quite a few that I had to let go of due to changing circumstances. Can you relate? Did you make goals for 2019? If so, how did they turn out?

Recently I re-read a fun little book called The Tao of Pooh by Benjamin Hoff, and he had this to say about goals:

“Each time the goal is reached, it becomes Not So Much Fun, and we’re off to reach the next one, then the next one, then the next. That doesn’t mean that the goals we have don’t count. They do, mostly because they cause us to go through the process, and it’s the process that makes us wise, happy, or whatever. If we do things in the wrong sort of way, it makes us miserable, angry, confused, and things like that. The goal has to be right for us, and it has to be beneficial, in order to ensure a beneficial process.”

Hoff then explains that moment of awareness before we achieve a goal:

“It’s when we become happy and realize it, if only for an instant. By Enjoying the Process, we can stretch that awareness out so that it’s no longer only a moment, but covers the whole thing. Then we can have a lot of fun. Just like Pooh.”

So how can we make goals that are right for us?

If you’ve been following my blog for a while then you know that at the end of each month I do a review of my journal and calendar, and then I set keywords for the new month. Perhaps you might like to do this also… It is a wonderful way to practice self-care, and it helps you to continually discern which goals are right for you.

When re-evaluating goals, it is good to remember that many goals are ever-shifting and evolving. While goals give a sense of direction, the path may change many times. And sometimes it ends up being best to abandon the path of a goal altogether and to find a new direction.

Today I am going to spend some time reviewing the year in my journals and calendar, and then I plan to set some keywords for 2020. Those words will be my guiding lights for the year, and I will share them with you in a post very soon!

I hope you enjoyed my year’s end thoughts on making goals… By the way, this was my 252nd post in 2019! Cheers to Blogging!

Are you ready to say good-bye to 2019?
I sure am! 🙂

However you celebrate tonight, may you be happy, joyful, and safe.

Happy New Year’s Eve to Everyone!

With so much love,
StarFire Teja

 

Fireworks image by moritz320 on Pixabay.

 

Facing My Blogging Reality

Dear readers,

With just two days left in 2019, how are you feeling about the goals you were reaching towards this year? I’m a bit embarrassed to admit this to you, but one of my “stretch” goals for the year was to attract 19,000 blog followers. (At least I can’t hear you laughing now!) 🙂

Well, I didn’t exactly make that goal… But, I am truly grateful for the 133 people who are following the StarFire Teja Blog today… And yesterday’s post was my 250th post this year, so I celebrated that achievement by going back through and reading all of my posts… And I have to say, I feel quite pleased with my work…

And, in looking through my binder of blog post ideas, I came across the inspiration for today’s post: an article written by Christian Mihai on The Art of Blogging back in August, entitled “Why No One Reads Your Blog (and What to Do About It).” After reading that post, I decided that I needed to face my blogging reality…

… And the reality is, I am not putting in the amount of hours of work that it would take to have a successful blog. The main reason is the same reason that I have failed at numerous career attempts over the years, and that is the debilitating symptoms of Fibromyalgia slow me down and prevent me from being able to work at the levels of time and energy that I would otherwise be capable of…

… And, a secondary reason is the same secondary reason that I have failed at so many past endeavors, and that is I do not like marketing, promotion, and sales. Please see my previous post, “Realizing (Again) That I Am Not a Salesperson!” In that article I wrote that as I face the reality of this body’s limitations, I am finding that writing is what I can do… I work for the Forces of Goodness and I have good intentions to be helpful with blog posts, even if I don’t have the mojo to promote them widely and well!

In my post “Defining Your Purpose” I shared that chronic illness and not being able to work is seriously challenging my sense of purpose, but I am determined to master this situation and to somehow be of service to others. And, I am doing all that I can, so perhaps this blog will not ever get much bigger… unless by some miracles!

So, dear readers, I am shifting the focus of the StarFire Teja Blog to being a blog of service, without the “stretch” goal of expanding its reach… I will continue writing because it is fun and because it is helpful to a few people… In 2020 I won’t be trying for any specific goals, but rather I will just be writing with the intent to be helpful.

As a spiritual helper on a mission to help elevate the human species to healthier and happier vibrations, my promise to you is that every day I do practices to happy up my life, and I will continue to share helpful tools and insights to help you to also happy up your life.

Thank you for reading the StarFire Teja Blog!

Let’s Happy Up Together in 2020! 🙂

With gratitude and loving-goodness,
StarFire Teja

 

Half-Way Through 2019: Goals Review Time!

Hello Dear Readers!

Can you even believe that we are already half-way through this year? And how is it going with the goals you set for 2019?

On January 1st, I set these goals for the New Year:

To be Happy, Healthy, Holy, Hopeful, and Helpful.

I actually did not try to make them all begin with the letter “H”… Those goals just came to me spontaneously, in that order, and they all just happened to begin with H… So here is my check-in about how my goals are going:

Happy: As the image with this post says, “I ❤ Happiness.” Years ago I bought a bunch of organic bananas that had a little oval sticker with that quote. I still have that tiny sticker, but it is too small to photograph, so I made this image… I recently suggested to WordPress that they include the featured photo in the emails, but since that isn’t happening yet, I’m attaching the image here again for those who are viewing this post by email…

IHeartHappiness_StarFireTeja

Anyhow, I would say that overall I am feeling much happier in 2019. It is a choice to be happy, and I definitely choose happiness… AND I do practices to keep happy-ing up, and when those practices are effective I write about them in blog posts and books to help you happy up also!

Healthy: Well, physically I look very healthy, and I do eat an organic, whole foods plant-based, gluten-free diet, as well as exercise and take care of my health on all levels… AND, for decades I have dealt with many strange ailments and aches and pains that come and go and move around. My symptoms lately seem like perhaps a Fibromyalgia flare-up, so soon I will be finding a new doctor to get evaluated… Thankfully, all of the practices that I do to happy up also help me to manage my emotional reactions to not feeling well physically. And, fortunately I have good days as well as bad days, so I am very grateful for the good days!

Holy: For many years on my spiritual journey, I straddled two worlds… In one world I wanted to be a nun, and in the other world I wanted to find prince charming. (Please read my favorite blog post ever about how I no longer have that desire for a partner: “Into the Fire.”) Now that I am just living in the one world as a nun, married to God and the Spiritual Life, I am relieved to no longer be searching for an earthly guy… AND, I’m still learning a lot about desires and attachments in the earthly realm! Just because I freed myself of one desire, did not mean that I freed myself of all desires! So even though I am doing many daily spiritual practices, I would not describe myself as being entirely pure and holy. I am doing my best and I am always challenging myself to grow more!

Hopeful: Recently I discovered a new hero, Thich Nhat Hanh, and I read his awesome book, Peace is Every Step, which I will be reviewing in a blog post soon. In that book he talks about how hope is necessary when we are having a hard time because it helps us to get through the difficulties… but then once we get through the challenges, hope is not enough for true happiness, because hope is for the future, whereas happiness is to be found in the present moment. That really resonated as truth for me, and I reflected on how I had set “Hopeful” as one of my 2019 goals because I was still living in what I call my decade of hardships (which began in March, 2009)… And so the first few months of 2019 I was struggling to keep hope alive in my mind and heart… But thankfully, in the past few months there has been a shift into feeling hopeful most of the time… So I think I can check this one off, and move on to living in the happy present moment!

Helpful: Due to the health issues mentioned above, I am not able to do all that I would like to do in terms of helping others… But, I am proud to say that this year I trained with a local hospice and I have been going out to visit with dying patients and their families. And I have been posting helpful blog articles… And I am getting ready to publish my new book, Reaching for Orange: Practices, Visualizations, & Blessings to Help You Happy Up Your Life. (For more information, please read “Double Coffee Days Ahead.”)… So, I am being helpful in the ways that I can…

Thank you for reading my 2019 Goals Review!

How about you… How is it going with your goals for the year?

 

Happy Half-Way Through 2019 to Everyone!

 

 

How’s It Going With Your 2019 Goals?

Setting goals is good, but sometimes it can be a set-up for terrible heartbreak, especially if the goals were set too high.

For example, one of my goals this year was to sell 1,809 books by March 31st, which was set too high given the reality that I had no publicist and no budget. Even though I knew it was what some call a “stretch goal,” I’m still feeling a tad sad about it, so I am grateful that I have many tools for working skillfully with difficult emotions.

Are you feeling sad about any of your goals not panning out? If so, you might benefit from using my two best tools for working with the sadness of disappointment: Cultivating the Witness and Practicing Gratitude. Both are described in the extensive list of spiritual practices at the beginning of my book, The Tejaswini Ramayana: The Way of Rama in the Shakahara StarFire Universes.

When re-evaluating goals, it is good to remember that many goals are ever-shifting and evolving. While goals give a sense of direction, the path may change many times. And sometimes it ends up being best to abandon the path of a goal altogether and find a new direction.

So, how’s it going with your 2019 goals?

 

May All Beings Be Free of Suffering.
May All Beings Be Happy!

 

 

StarFire Teja’s StarFire Friday Blessing: May You Embrace Change

 

May you see the Consciousness moving through everything.

May you feel how all things are connected.

May your weekend be blessed with understanding and simple joys.

May you embrace change.

 

The winds of change are rocking the planet, both literally and metaphorically. Both can be upsetting to the nervous system, especially for highly sensitive persons (HSPs). But even if you aren’t highly sensitive, the physical wind outside can be a force that rattles the nerves. Does the wind ever bother you?

If the wind bothers you, it can help to re-frame your thoughts about it. Instead of thinking of the wind as irritating, try thinking of it as exciting. It is a natural force that has the power to move energy from place to place. It’s about change. And change can be exciting.

Change is the nature of life on Earth, and it has always been constant, but lately the times seem to be changing at a faster pace. When change feels scary or unsettling, it can help to focus on your feet, and to focus on the ground beneath your feet. Breathing down into your feet, which are the farthest away from your brain, can help to calm your nerves.

This next week we will change to a new season, and shortly after that we will complete the first quarter of 2019. So it is a good time to take a look at the goals you set for the year. Are you living in alignment with those goals, or do you need to make some changes in your trajectory?

 

May All Beings Know Deep Peace.

 

 

image Courtesy NASA/MSFC