Riding a Grief Wave Successfully

In my post on Monday (“Writing a Book Strengthens Many Virtues”), I mentioned that while writing my next book (Reaching for Orange: Practices, Visualizations, & Blessings to Help You Happy Up Your Life), more than once I have witnessed myself applying a concept from the book in my life.

So this post is a story of how I rode a grief wave successfully by using some of the very tools I had already written about in the new book!

One evening last month I was suddenly overcome by a huge grief wave over something that happened in my past… I have experienced a lot of grief in my life, but this particular wave was incredibly painful, so much so that I was beginning to feel overwhelmed by the intensity… While I was crying really hard, as if by some Grace from Beyond, I spontaneously began speaking out loud to myself in a very soothing voice… Here is what I said:

“Remember that emotions are just energies… these are big energies, but they are just passing through you… soften, and give them space… allow them to flow through… remember that emotions rise and fall like ocean waves… they won’t take you out… relax into the pain… just let it go through you… you are stronger than the energies that are passing through you… you don’t need to be afraid of these energies… these energies will not overwhelm you if you just soften and allow them to move through… they will shift…”

After coaching myself like that for a while, I stopped crying, and the energies did shift… and I was okay… No, I was more than okay… I was triumphant!

I successfully rode that painful grief wave because I practiced what I preach, so to speak.

Perhaps you might like to print out those words that I spoke to myself, so the next time you feel grief, you can read them aloud to yourself. If you do so, please let me know how it goes…

May All Beings Be Free of Suffering.
May All Beings Be Happy!

 

Photo by Mathias Reding on Unsplash.

 

God Gives Our Globe A Good Shake

Perhaps we are each inside our own snow globe, and all the little snowflakes are the elements of karma, destiny, fate, free will, chance, luck, synchronicity, grace, coincidence, temperament, personality, and so on… And when we are born, God gives our globe a good shake, and where it all lands creates our own unique constellation… This would explain why there is no set rule book, and it can be mysterious (and maddening) to discern which elements are at play at any given time in our lives.

For example, how do we know when to surrender to destiny and when to take action with our own free wills? They say to align your will with the Divine Will, but how do we exactly do that?

Please share your thoughts in the comments below, down where it says “Leave a Reply.”

May All Beings Be Free of Suffering
May All Beings Be Happy!

 

Image: “Botanical Robin Snow Globe”

The Power of Intention is StarFire Awesome!

In a recent blog, “Guided Imagery Exercise for Difficult Emotions” I shared that I am carrying a deep grief in my heart. Well, the last week of February I got slammed with a grief wave that affected me on every level. I felt miserable, with back pain, neck pain, exhaustion, headaches, upset stomach, extra sensitivity (even more than my usual HSP-ness!), dizziness, depression, irritability, and anxiety. I cried often and I felt quite a bit of despair, fearing that I will never recover from the grief.

Have you ever felt that miserable?

So then on March 1st, I was feeling a tad better and I gathered my wits and set some intentions. I posted my “keywords for March” on Facebook: Acceptance, Forgiveness, Peace, & Grace… And then… something amazing happened. The very next day I felt those keywords actualizing in my being. I truly felt Acceptance, Forgiveness, Peace, & Grace… I felt so much more clear about everything, and I felt at peace with my whole past. I said out loud, “I accept and bless everything that has happened in my life.”

Gratitude was ringing in every cell. It was as if I had passed through a dark portal, like a brutal shamanic journey through excruciating pain, and popped out the other side into the radiant orange light!

Wow, I am telling you, if you don’t already know (and reminding you if you do know), that the power of intention is StarFire Awesome! The next time you’re going through a dark portal, remember to set some positive keywords (and share them with others to give them even more power), and then be amazed by the results! Holy Coconut Shells, it is so awesome to feel at peace with your past. I wish this for you also.

And, we are human and ever-changing. Our emotions rise and fall like ocean waves, which means that I may still have more work to do on Acceptance and Forgiveness. But for now I’m enjoying this state of Peace & Grace… And I’m feeling hopeful, willing, and curious for what is next…

How are you feeling today?

 

image Courtesy NASA/JPL-Caltech

 

 

The Healing Grace of Forgiveness

Last weekend I found out that a guy from my past had died the previous week. I had not spoken with him for three years, during which time I had been holding on to some judgements and disappointments regarding him, but about five months ago I had begun to feel compassion and forgiveness for him in my heart. When I shared that with a dear friend, she replied, “Forgiveness is key to good health.”

My experiences with forgiveness have been similar to my experiences with grief. Both have stages and both come in waves. We can’t really force either one to complete before they are ready to do so, but we can allow them to flow through with grace.

After reading my friend’s words on forgiveness, while lying on the Amethyst Crystal Biomat, a huge wave of forgiveness flowed through me and I spoke these words aloud:

“I forgive everyone. I forgive all of my family and friends for the times I’ve been hurt by them, and I release all of my expectations and attachments which caused me to feel those hurts. I forgive all of my past lovers for the times I was hurt by them, and I release all of my expectations, attachments, and projections which caused me to feel those hurts. I am now married to God and the Spiritual Life and I find my happiness inside, with God. I release and forgive everyone. And, I forgive myself for causing myself pain through expectations and attachments. Now I am enjoying the Happiness and the Radiance of the Spiritual Life.”

I recognize that I am not a perfect being, and that there will likely be more waves of forgiveness work to do, and yet, in this moment, I am resting in the healing grace of Forgiveness. May you also be blessed to experience the healing grace of Forgiveness.

May All Beings Know Deep Peace.