Do you ever feel bothered by your neighbors? If so, perhaps you will be able to relate to my story here…
My intention is to send loving good vibes to my neighbors, even when – no, especially when – they do insensitive things that affect me negatively. However, when their carcinogenic cigarette smoke, toxic lighter fluid fumes, heart-breaking smells of dead animal flesh cooking, and offensive sounds of foul language all waft on the nice breeze across the property line and in through my open window, my best intentions are seriously challenged.
As I close the window, I feel irritation and anger that once again I cannot get fresh air and hear the lovely birdsong. I know that the negative energies arising in me are not healthy for me, and I do believe that energies radiate out to others. But, it is one thing to understand the energetic principles involved, and a whole other thing to be able to practice loving kindness in the moment of feeling triggered.
If you also feel challenged by your neighbors, here are a few practices that can help you to find equanimity, love, and compassion…
At the moment you first feel triggered, pause and witness your emotions with loving attention. Breathe, and cultivate compassion for yourself first. Next, remind yourself that the other person is doing the best they can with the light that they have to see by. They probably are not even aware that their behavior is bothering you. In fact, they might even feel bad if they knew that they were causing you grief.
Try to let go of any judgments you may be feeling towards them. And finally, send them love, compassion, peace, and healing energies. Notice how much better you feel after doing that. Kindness and compassion transform you, and they feel so much better than irritation and anger.
I hope this post was helpful to you.
May All Beings Be Free of Suffering.
May All Beings Be Happy!
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