A Shout-Out to WordPress

Dear readers,

I am not getting paid for this post… and, well, I haven’t gotten paid for the other 323 posts I’ve published on this blog either! 🙂 (A while back I shared about my non-salesperson status in a post, “Realizing (Again) That I Am Not a Salesperson!”)

Due to my homebound status (thanks to Fibromyalgia and an Anxiety Disorder), I am not working at a job, but I still want to be of helpful service to others, in ways that are doable for me… And writing helpful blog posts continues to be not only manageable, but quite enjoyable…

Blogging would not be so enjoyable if it weren’t for WordPress. It is so incredibly user-friendly. I am somewhat savvy with computers, and I don’t have much patience for sites that are not easy to navigate. WordPress is truly outstanding in that aspect.

I really love how WordPress sends out notification emails when people like and comment on my posts. And the tagline at the bottom of their emails is pretty witty-adorable: “Thanks for flying with WordPress.com.”

For those who pay for a WordPress plan, live chat support is available from “Happiness Engineers”… How cute is that? On that page, it says, “Our Happiness Engineers can answer any questions that you have about WordPress.com, how it works, and how best to use it.”

Well, since I’m blogging as a helpful service to others and making zero income from it (thusfar), I am not paying for a plan with WordPress, but because WordPress is so well designed, I have not even once needed to ask them for support. That says a lot, doesn’t it?

Thanks for visiting this online StarFire Temple of Happiness. I hope you enjoyed my shout-out to WordPress.

May you be bright, merry, and healthy!

With much gratitude and positive vibes,
StarFire Teja

 

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You the Bell

 

“Let this darkness be a bell tower and you the bell. As you ring, what batters you becomes your strength. Move back and forth into the change.”
~ Rainer Maria Rilke

Dear readers,

In my lifetime I have had a tendency to go into regular spells of darkness… But, I have a very strong base of happiness in me, so I know how to create happy moments, even when I’m being battered in darkness!

How about you, is your base of happiness strong?

My dear ones, I sincerely hope that my posts help you to Happy Up. 🙂

With happy hope even in my dark time of grief,
StarFire Teja

 

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Monday Morning Musings on Grief (Again)

 

“The edge of the keenest sorrow wears with time and perhaps Heaven’s kindest gifts to men are sleep for the fleeting cares of the day and forgetfulness for the deep-seated injuries of the heart.”
~ C. Rajagopalachari in his Ramayana

 

Dear readers,

Does that quote resonate with you?

From where I sit with my cuppa black coffee on this rainy morning, I’m not so sure what I think about that quote. Throughout my adult life, I have experienced pretty serious grief a handful of times, and those sorrows did get better with the passing of time (and a lot of crying)… But, tomorrow marks one calendar month since my Dad died, and this grief of losing a parent is a whole new level of emotional pain that I had not experienced before. It is just terrible, and it is difficult to imagine ever feeling better.

One nice feature of this blog is the search box… Last night I typed in the word “grief” and re-read some of my own posts about grief… (And I discovered that I had already written a post with the same title as today’s post, so that’s why I added the word “Again”, smiley face!) If you or someone you know is now grieving, these posts might be helpful so I’ll put the links here ~

~ “Protection Prayer When Grieving

~ “Riding a Grief Wave Successfully

~ “Monday Morning Musings on Grief

One of the stranger aspects of grief is the shock and denial stage. Over this past month, I find that I alternate between the cushion of shock, with thoughts like, “This didn’t really happen… He couldn’t have really died…” and the pain of reality with thoughts like, “His body is buried in the Earth… we will never see him in the physical again…” With regards to this musing, I must say that I much prefer the barrier that the shock provides. When I’m in the shock, the pain softens because everything feels unreal, fuzzy, numb, and even surreal. Even though, in the back of my mind, I know that he really died, the shock makes me feel like it is all a bad dream and soon I will wake up and my Dad will be here like before…

But I am intelligent, so I know logically that he is actually gone forever from the physical realm… Grief definitely muddles the mind! Can you relate?

After my Dad died I took a few weeks off from blogging, and when I returned to my great love of blogging I didn’t know how often I would post… Well, if you’ve been following this blog then you know that I have been posting daily (this is the 11th day in a row)… And I think I need to slow down the pace, because I am feeling pretty overwhelmed. It is natural to feel easily stressed when grieving, so that is why it is recommended to be easy on yourself. Great sorrow requires great self-love and tender self-care. So, I will still be posting here, but I’m really going to try to slow down the pace! 🙂

Thank you so much for reading my musings on grief today. I hope this post is helpful to you or to someone you love.

With much, much love,
StarFire Teja

 

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How to Support Someone with Chronic Health Issues

Do you know someone who has chronic health issues?

Chronic health issues may be issues with physical health, emotional health, mental health, and/or spiritual health.

Here are some ways you can support someone with chronic health issues ~

~ Meet them where they are. Do not expect them to be any certain way, and honor their process, even if they are currently stuck.

~ Resist the urge to give advice. Respect their journey and acknowledge all that they have done and are currently doing to help themselves heal.

~ Do not judge them. Resist the urge to share your opinions, because even if you think you know what they should and shouldn’t do, you may not understand all of the aspects involved in the battles they fight each day.

~ Practice active compassionate listening. Ask them questions, listen carefully to their answers, and then say something that lets the person know that you heard what they said. Even if you do not understand their experience, you can say something like, “That sounds really hard” or “That must be so challenging.” Simple phrases like that can be very soothing to the person.

~ Ask if there is anything you can do. Even if they say no, you can offer to pray for them, or send them healing energies, or send them things such as bright cheerful greeting cards (by email or snail mail), money (if they need it), or gift certificates for healing services like massage.

~ Encourage their efforts. Giving a well-timed and genuine compliment can really help to brighten the person’s whole day.

I hope these suggestions are helpful to you or to someone you love. If you are supporting someone with chronic health issues and you have further ideas, please share them in the comments below.

May All Beings Be Free of Suffering.
May All Beings Be Happy!

 

Red sunset photo by Thiago Gomes on Unsplash.

 

Facing My Blogging Reality

Dear readers,

With just two days left in 2019, how are you feeling about the goals you were reaching towards this year? I’m a bit embarrassed to admit this to you, but one of my “stretch” goals for the year was to attract 19,000 blog followers. (At least I can’t hear you laughing now!) 🙂

Well, I didn’t exactly make that goal… But, I am truly grateful for the 133 people who are following the StarFire Teja Blog today… And yesterday’s post was my 250th post this year, so I celebrated that achievement by going back through and reading all of my posts… And I have to say, I feel quite pleased with my work…

And, in looking through my binder of blog post ideas, I came across the inspiration for today’s post: an article written by Christian Mihai on The Art of Blogging back in August, entitled “Why No One Reads Your Blog (and What to Do About It).” After reading that post, I decided that I needed to face my blogging reality…

… And the reality is, I am not putting in the amount of hours of work that it would take to have a successful blog. The main reason is the same reason that I have failed at numerous career attempts over the years, and that is the debilitating symptoms of Fibromyalgia slow me down and prevent me from being able to work at the levels of time and energy that I would otherwise be capable of…

… And, a secondary reason is the same secondary reason that I have failed at so many past endeavors, and that is I do not like marketing, promotion, and sales. Please see my previous post, “Realizing (Again) That I Am Not a Salesperson!” In that article I wrote that as I face the reality of this body’s limitations, I am finding that writing is what I can do… I work for the Forces of Goodness and I have good intentions to be helpful with blog posts, even if I don’t have the mojo to promote them widely and well!

In my post “Defining Your Purpose” I shared that chronic illness and not being able to work is seriously challenging my sense of purpose, but I am determined to master this situation and to somehow be of service to others. And, I am doing all that I can, so perhaps this blog will not ever get much bigger… unless by some miracles!

So, dear readers, I am shifting the focus of the StarFire Teja Blog to being a blog of service, without the “stretch” goal of expanding its reach… I will continue writing because it is fun and because it is helpful to a few people… In 2020 I won’t be trying for any specific goals, but rather I will just be writing with the intent to be helpful.

As a spiritual helper on a mission to help elevate the human species to healthier and happier vibrations, my promise to you is that every day I do practices to happy up my life, and I will continue to share helpful tools and insights to help you to also happy up your life.

Thank you for reading the StarFire Teja Blog!

Let’s Happy Up Together in 2020! 🙂

With gratitude and loving-goodness,
StarFire Teja