The Toughest Job You’ll Ever Love

Dear readers, in this post I will share a bit about my journey as a mother and offer encouragement to parents of young children.

I gave birth to Zak in 1997 and Gabe in 2000, and I was an at-home mama for many years. I felt so grateful to be home with them, and, at the same time, it was the hardest job I ever had! Whoever wrote the campaign for the U.S. Peace Corps in 1961 must have been a parent. The slogan read, “The Toughest Job You’ll Ever Love” and if you are a parent of young children, I’m sure you can identify with that, right?

Along the mothering path, there were many sweet joys as well as many stressful days. At the time, when I felt challenged to attend to the many needs of little people while trying to figure out a career path and take care of my own highly sensitive needs, I felt as though it would never end. I heard well-meaning older people say, “Enjoy every moment, they grow up so fast,” but while I was immersed in the stress of it all, it did not feel fast!

If you are a parent now of young children, I know it is hard work, and I know it can feel like time is slowing down, but that is simply your temporary perception of time, which might be a result of sleep deprivation! What I can tell you now is those older people were right. They do grow up so fast. All of a sudden, your grown children will be standing before you! So please, try to enjoy and savor every precious moment you have with your young children.

Now that my sons are young adults, I must say that I enjoy them more than ever before. In the Acknowledgements section of my new book (Reaching for Orange: Practices, Visualizations, & Blessings to Help You Happy Up Your Life), this is what I wrote about them:

“How can I even explain my gratitude for my two sons? These very aware young men are the bright spots in my life. They keep me going, keep me inspired, and keep me real. Thank you so much, Zak and Gabe, for the ways you really show up and spend quality time (long distance via video calls) being with me, and sharing yourselves with me. I am so proud of you both. I am honored and delighted that I get to be your mama bear. I love watching you grow into your amazing adult selves, and I bow to your wisdom, brilliance, and modern savvy-ness.”

On super crazy mothering days, when my little cubs were fighting with each other and I got a headache from the overwhelming stress, I would never have imagined how much I would miss them in the future when we would live thousands of miles apart. Now tears are welling in my eyes as I type this, because I miss my guys so much! I think this mama bear has a case of “absence makes the heart grow fonder.”

I hope you enjoyed this post.

With much love,
Mama Teja

 

Photo* of mama bear and grown cubs taken by my niece Lily Rose at a family gathering in Ashland, Oregon, August 2018.

* If you are viewing this post in an email, to see the photo of my sons and me, simply click on the title of the article and you will be taken to the StarFire Teja Blog!

 

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The Helper Who Helps the Helpers

What are your roles now? Have your roles changed much throughout your life?

For some people, their roles are clear and set, such as a man who is a husband, father, and salesman for fifty years, and then he is still a husband and father when he becomes a retired salesman and grandfather.

For other people, their roles are unclear and ever changing. Take me for example! In this post I will share about my experiences with roles, and I invite you to share about yours in the comments below.

Beyond my steady roles in relationships, such as daughter, sister, sister-in-law, mother, former wife, aunt, and friend, my roles out in the working world have been unclear and ever changing. If you read my biography (on the About Page, or in the “About the Author” section of my new book, Reaching for Orange: Practices, Visualizations, & Blessings to Help You Happy Up Your Life), you will see that I have trained in many areas… And for many years I wanted to get a masters degree in social work or mental health therapy, but that didn’t happen. For a long time I felt drawn to working with prisoners, veterans, and other highly traumatized populations.

But then I experienced trauma myself.

I had learned all about PTSD (Post-traumatic stress disorder) in theory, but to feel it in my own mind and body was earth-shattering and rocked my entire world. Now that the dust has settled, and I am 97-98% healed from the trauma, I am re-evaluating my roles once again.

I no longer feel drawn to work with traumatized groups. I feel that I need to protect the 2-3% of trauma still remaining in my system. The counselor who I worked with told me that typically 2% of trauma remains even after a person has healed, because the trauma will always be a part of the person.

Some people, who are probably not HSPs (Highly Sensitive Persons) like me, do their own healing and then are able to jump right in and help others who have been through similar traumas. But I don’t know if I will ever be able to work directly with traumatized people… So, I am beginning to think that perhaps one of my roles as a spiritual helper is to support other people who are willing and able to work directly with traumatized people. Maybe I will be the helper who helps the helpers!

Do you work with traumatized people? If so, I bow to you for doing that difficult and important work. Do you sometimes feel like you take in the trauma energies of those you work with? Do you ever feel overwhelmed and need a sanctuary in which to nourish yourself? If so, you are among some of the people who will benefit the most from reading my new book, Reaching for Orange: Practices, Visualizations, & Blessings to Help You Happy Up Your Life. (Please also see my post, “23 Possible Benefits You May Gain Through Reading Reaching for Orange.”)

My current roles beyond relationships are blogger, author, and hospice volunteer. Visiting with dying patients and their families is very rewarding. I enjoy offering spiritual support, and I am not afraid of helping others work with their difficult emotions. I especially love helping others to relax with guided imagery tools.

What are your current roles in life?

 

Orange flower photo by MabelAmber on Pixabay.

 

New Month, New Journal

Wow, I have really been going through the journals this Summer! As I shared in a previous post (“4 Helpful Tips for Looking for a New Doctor”), I have been dealing with some health issues, and when I don’t feel well physically, the combination of being an HSP (Highly Sensitive Person) and feeling sick makes me more prone to feeling overwhelmed. So during those times, I pull even further inside, and I don’t connect much with friends… Thus, I write a lot more in my journal during those times!

Can you relate to this? What do you do when you feel overwhelmed?

How was the month of July for you? Did you write anything down in a journal or calendar?

Yesterday I reviewed my journal and calendar for the month of July, and here are a few highlights ~

~ My mantra was “Calm Down & Happy Up.”

~ Lots of very happy days: feeling happier and happier in my new nun chapter!

~ Thunderstorms and fireworks.

~ Feeling really in alignment with purpose.

~ Realization: My main job is to be happy.

~ I really LOVE blogging… I keep hearing that quote, “Do what you love, and the money will follow.” (Marsha Sinetar) And, my Mom said, “Consider yourself a writer. Period.”

~ Realization: I am really fringe!

~ Super grateful for donations to my work!

~ Enjoying birdsong and bugsong.

~ Put a Sun on it, sunshine girl.

~ Full of happy!

~ Praying for inner peace. One day at a time. Do what I can each day.

So… Now I am looking ahead to this brand new month of August, and here are my keywords: Humility, Patience, and Peace. As I continue blogging and making visits with dying hospice patients, I pray to be humble, patient, and peaceful.

And, once I approve the proofing copy of my new book (arriving in the mail today!), I will enjoy promoting the book (Reaching for Orange: Practices, Visualizations, & Blessings to Help You Happy Up Your Life) and leading healing circles, while feeling humble, patient, and peaceful. I will really enjoy the work, while feeling Happy, Happy, Happy!!!

What are your goals for August? What are your keywords and intentions?

I hope you enjoyed this post.
Happy August to you! 🙂

 

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StarFire Teja’s StarFire Friday Blessing: May You Feel Passion

 

May you enjoy your roles in life.

May you be clear about what you stand for.

May your weekend be blessed with invigoration, revelation, and relaxation.

May you feel passion.

 

Dear reader,

What do you feel passionate about? Do you have clear convictions and visions? What is on your mind the most lately? And what do you most deeply want?

When I was in high school, I loved reading the news for my current events class. I felt very intrigued about everything that was happening in the world. So when it came time to go to college, I chose the Political Science major. At the time it seemed like a good fit for me, because I certainly had some fire in my blood, which I had inherited from my paternal grandfather, who was very political. He worked for a labor union and he was very passionate about the Democratic party in the state of Indiana. He and I enjoyed discussing politics, and one semester I even worked as an intern in his office, coordinating a get-out-the-vote drive.

I felt a lot of passion during elections just like my Grandpa, and I really thought that politics was my life path… But, political science majors were required to regularly read several different newspapers, and during my junior year, when the Gulf War was happening, I found myself crying every morning while reading the news. It was just so heartbreaking to read about all the bloodshed and all the mothers losing their sons. I became very upset about all the violence and corruption. So, even though I was required to read the news, I began taking breaks from it. (That was one of the early clues that I am an HSP, a Highly Sensitive Person!)

The following year, during my last semester at Butler University, I found my true passion in an Anthropology class called “Religion & Ritual Around the World.” I have been studying religion and spirituality ever since, and over the past 27 years since college, I have discovered that the fire in my blood is not for the political arena (sorry, Grandpa!), but rather it is for a mission to help elevate the human species to happier and healthier vibrations.

With each person who becomes happier and healthier, their happier and healthier vibrations radiate out and help the collective consciousness to be happier and healthier. So, I believe that my role in working to end all the senseless wars is through helping people to happy up and to heal themselves.

This weekend I will continue waiting patiently for the proof copy of my new book to arrive… Once I approve it, the book will be available for you to order. It is my deepest prayer that Reaching for Orange: Practices, Visualizations, & Blessings to Help You Happy Up Your Life will be helpful to many people. This book was born out of the fire in my blood to help elevate people, so we can all enjoy more happiness and peace in the world.

Do you have fire in your blood for something?

Happy Weekend to you!

With much love,
Teja

 

Photo by Javier Cañada on Unsplash.

 

Visioning for July 2019

Well, how was the month of June for you? Were there any significant themes or breakthroughs? Do you have a sense of what you would like to do and feel and experience in July? Is there anything you would like to change or update?

If you have been following this blog, then you already know that I recently began a practice of reviewing my journal and calendar at the end of each month, and then visioning some keywords for the new month. My primary keyword for June was Renewal, and I think I accomplished that goal. I do feel renewed and ready for a new good chapter ahead. Yes! The positivity bells are ringing! Can you hear them?

A couple of nights ago I saw a very bright star shining in the sky, and I spontaneously made a 3-part wish, and that wish has evolved into my keywords for July: to be Calm, Helpful, and Happy…

Calm ~ One of my dearest spiritual teachers, David La Chapelle (who left the earthly realm in July 2009), frequently assigned practices to help calm me down, and when he met my Mom he told her, “Your daughter is a live wire.” One of the consistent threads throughout my entire life has been an abundance of excitement energies, and since I have a highly sensitive nervous system, I tend to get over-stimulated easily, which often makes it challenging to get peaceful sleep. July is a high energy, fiery month where I live, so my intention is to focus more on calming down my system.

Helpful ~ It is my deepest prayer that these blog articles will be helpful to people… And I will continue being helpful through visiting hospice patients… And soon I will be publishing my new book, which I hope will be helpful to many people! (Reaching for Orange: Practices, Visualizations, & Blessings to Help You Happy Up Your Life)

Happy ~ In July this happy keyword for me is about attracting money. They say, “Money can’t buy happiness” which is true… But money can buy soap, toothpaste, and chapstick! This month my intention is to continue feeling the happy gratitude vibration for all that I have, AND to open to receiving more happy green energies (money)… so that I can buy some essentials, and so that I can launch the new book! (If you can contribute to my work, I will appreciate every penny so much: Donate)

As you reflect on your own month of June ending, and your month of July beginning, what arises for you? Do you notice any interesting thoughts, feelings, or sensations? What brings you satisfaction? What do you most deeply want? What can you do this month to work towards your goals? What can you do right now, today, to relieve any angst or discomfort?

Simply reflecting on such questions can really help you to shift into a higher, more open state of mind and heart.

Please share your July keywords in the comments section below.
I truly hope this post was helpful to you.

Happy July!
May All Beings Be Happy!

 

Red Lily photo by Didgeman on Pixabay.