Spiritual Helper 101 = Tips for Being a Good Friend

As a spiritual helper, I really want to be helpful, so it is important to me that I avoid doing anything that might harm rather than help. However, I am not a saint, and despite my good intentions I sometimes make mistakes.

A few things happened recently that served as good reminders for me as a spiritual helper. I am sharing these reminders with you because they are also basic reminders for being a good friend ~

~ Do not give advice, even if they ask for advice. Instead, keep asking questions and guide them to find their own answers.

~ Do not give opinions or judgments. Instead, suggest that they sit quietly in meditation and listen for their own inner wisdom.

~ After listening and guiding them to find their own insights, you can ask if they would like any suggestions, such as ideas or practices that might help. If they say yes, you can share suggestions, and then ask if those ideas resonate with them.

Do these reminders resonate with you?

Thank you for reading this blog. I really hope the posts are helpful to you!

May All Beings Know Deep Peace.

 

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Tree Meditation for Driving Madness

Crazy driving is not just for California anymore. Have you noticed an increase in aggressive driving where you live?

I am astounded by all of the speeding, running of red lights, and angry behaviors that I notice in other drivers. I have never understood getting so angry at a stranger who paused when the red light turned green. Perhaps she was distracted by something, or maybe her husband just died.

As I shared in my last post, “3 Ways to Transmute Anger into its Highest Vibrations,” anger can be detrimental to your health… So, if you drive often and you regularly get angry while driving, you are putting yourself at risk for many stress-related diseases. Starting now, commit to decreasing the anger that you feel when driving.

When you are driving, if you begin to feel angry, first cultivate the witness. Say to yourself, “some anger is passing through my system.” That will help you to bring some distance between yourself and the angry energy.

Next, visualize a tree. Choose a tree that is rather large and has a firm, sturdy trunk. See that tree in your mind’s eye, and think about how calm and strong that tree is… Also contemplate how patient and forgiving the tree is… Even if you cut down part of that tree, the rest of the tree will still give you shade… And no matter how badly you behave, that tree will still let you walk under it or sit against its trunk.

As you continue driving along, be strong and calm like your tree. Be patient and forgiving with the other drivers. When they make mistakes, think to yourself, “I wonder what kind of day he’s having? I wonder if he’s upset about something?” Cultivate these kind of compassionate thoughts as you drive.

There is rarely (if ever) a reason to get so angry driving that you raise your cortisol and put your health at risk. So… slow down, breathe, and do your tree meditation!

I hope this article was helpful to you or to someone you love.

May All Drivers Be Calm!
May All Drivers Be Healthy!

 

 

 

 

Meditation to Get Beyond Irritation

Do you ever find yourself in a state of complete and utter irritation with everything?

The next time you notice yourself feeling irritated, try this simple meditation practice… Sit in a quiet place and close your eyes. Bring your attention to your breathing. You don’t need to try to make your breathing be a certain way. Simply witness the in-breath and witness the out-breath.

Next add a mantra or affirmation. For example, I think “Om Namah Shivaya” with the in-breath and again with the out-breath. You might want to think “I am Peace” with the in-breath, and “I am Love” with the out-breath… Or you could think “I am Love” with the in-breath and “I am Light” with the out-breath…

Sit and think your mantra or affirmation with the breath until you feel the irritations dissolving. It may take twenty minutes (or longer) to achieve a feeling of peace.

Let me know how it goes!

 

May All Beings Know Deep Peace.

 

 

Meditation: Focus on the Best

Yesterday on my walk in the neighborhood, I felt seriously annoyed by so many things: the wind, the humidity, the sun, and the discomforts in my body. After about five minutes of noticing all the irritations, I suddenly heard a voice in my head say, “Focus on the Best.”

As soon as I thought, “Focus on the Best” I noticed all the gorgeous brightly colored azaleas blooming in many of the yards. For the rest of my walk, anytime I started to feel annoyed, I brought my awareness back to the flowers.

Do you meditate regularly? If so, then you probably know that this is how it is with most meditations: you witness the passing phenomenon (such as thoughts, feelings, and sensations), and then you just keep bringing your awareness back to the breath or to the mantra or affirmation. In this case I kept bringing my attention back to the flowers.

Happy May to Everyone!
I hope you enjoy some flower meditations!

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“I wish…”

On January 11th I posted my favorite blog article ever (“Into the Fire”) in which I celebrated that I no longer have the desire for prince charming, and I am finding happiness inside my own being. Well, thankfully the desire for prince charming has not returned… but, as per human nature, other desires have grown in its place…

So, on March 11th as I sat in meditation nurturing one of those desires, I remembered the opening song of Into the Woods, in which the characters sing “I wish…” and I spontaneously took myself on a guided imagery voyage. In my mind I took my wish into the woods, where I said it to the trees… and then I took that wish out into the universes, where I said it to the stars… and then I took that wish out to the ocean, where I said it to the waves… and then I took that wish to Sedona, where I whispered it to the holy red rocks… and then I took that wish out into Space, where I shared it with the blue space beings of the Highest Love… and as I spoke my wish to each, all the while tears were just streaming down my cheeks…

The tears were a mixture of the depth of desire I was feeling for that wish, along with the sorrow of the desire not being fulfilled… Can you relate to this? Do you have any wishes that you fear will never come true? If you answered yes to these questions, then the solution for you, as well as for me, is to remember that true happiness is inside of us. When we attune with our inner selves it becomes easy to throw all the desires into the Fire of Love that is ever burning inside us.

Please read my post “Into the Fire” and let me know if it is helpful to you. You can comment down below where it says “Leave a Reply” or you can send me a private message via the Contact tab up in the top right corner. I would love to hear from you!

May All Beings Be Free of Suffering (from desires)
May All Beings Be Happy (inside their own beings)

 

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