Teja’s Tips for Making the Best of Staying Home

 

“You can chain me, you can torture me, you can even destroy this body, but you will never imprison my mind.”
~ Mahatma Gandhi

 

Dear readers,

I know how hard it is to feel like your life is shut down.

In early August, 2019, I was finally finding my groove in a new chapter of life. I was volunteering with hospice, publishing a new book (Reaching for Orange: Practices, Visualizations, & Blessings to Help You Happy Up Your Life), and preparing to lead healing circles again… But then a debilitating relapse into Fibromyalgia stopped me in my happy tracks. Suddenly I was homebound, canceling all of my plans and dreams.

After several months and many medical appointments, it was determined that along with Fibromyalgia, I have an Anxiety Disorder. Similar to the “which came first, the bird or the egg” question, it is unclear as to whether the anxiety caused the fibro, or the fibro caused the anxiety, but in any case, the symptoms are ongoing, ever-changing, maddening, and debilitating.

Needless to say, after being home for 8 months, I have figured out some ways to make the best of the situation. It helps that I was a homebody anyway, and my heart really goes out to those of you who are not naturally homebodies. If you are the kind of person who really thrives on extroverted worldly connections, I hope you can find some hidden internal pathways to joy that will sustain you during this time.

So, here are some tips for making the best of staying home ~

~ Acknowledge what you feel, and allow space for all the negative thoughts… Express your thoughts and feelings through writing them down or speaking them to others. Give yourself permission to be negative for some time, but don’t let yourself get stuck in negativity. Air it out, like you would shake out a rug, and then settle yourself down neatly into a calmer state. You can settle down through focusing on your breath, or tuning in to your heart (or belly or feet), or cultivating gratitude.

~ Choose to be happy… Per the Upanishads, a collection of wisdom by the ancient mystics of India, the mind is the means to happiness. Say over and over, “I am choosing to be happy.” Focus on doing things that really bring you joy, such as singing, dancing, and drinking coffee or tea.

~ Get dressed… Even if you are staying home all day, getting dressed will make you feel good. Lately I have even been putting on dangly earrings each day! And, even though I’m not going anywhere, I really enjoy the artistic feeling of putting together colorful outfits!

~ Cultivate Gratitude… Feeling grateful gives a big boost to your immune system, so take some time each day to count your blessings. Write them down, or tell others, or visit the Gratitude~Up Community Page here in this StarFire Temple of Happiness!

~ Keep perspective… Remember that you are not in prison, that you are staying home for your own safety and to protect others. And anyway, even if you were in prison, just like Mahatma Gandhi and Nelson Mandela, you can use the time wisely for writing or other creative endeavors, with a strong mind and a brave heart. Be relentless in seeing the Big Picture as you navigate this surreal time.

~ Create and follow a daily routine… The stability of a daily schedule will help to calm your nerves during this time of extreme change. Be sure to include some practices, such as sitting meditation, chanting (singing), visualization, and/or cultivating the Witness Consciousness. (You can read about these practices and many more in my book Reaching for Orange.)

~ Consciously work on elevating your virtues… The following qualities are really needed now: Patience, Understanding, Acceptance, Trust, Surrender, Loving-Kindness, Self-Love, and Peace.

My dear ones, I really hope this post is helpful to you. May you be of good courage and be of good cheer. May your days at home be blessed with goodness. May the Force of All Light energize and elevate you! May you be calm and happy in the midst of this bizarre sci-fi novel we are living in!

Happy Ram Navami to all who celebrate! Jai Sri Rama!

With happy high vibes,
StarFire Teja

 

Photo by Andrian Valeanu on Unsplash.

 

Transforming Negative Thoughts

How often do you catch yourself having negative thoughts? Do you ever feel like you are caught in a desperation spin?

In order to stop the spin and master your mind, the first step is identifying the repetitive negative thoughts so that you can re-write them in the positive. Re-writing is a method of re-framing which can help you to powerfully transform your negative thoughts.

After writing down your repetitive negative thoughts, re-write each one in the positive, using as many of the same words as possible. For example, if you often think, “This is terrible,” you could re-write that thought in the positive as “This is temporary.” Another example is re-writing the thought, “I’ve got to get out of here,” in the positive as “I’ve got to relax here.”

Using as many of the same words as possible makes it easier for you to remember to think the new thoughts, because the grooves of the old thoughts are already so established in your mind. If you only change one word, and it begins with the same letter as the old word, that makes the process almost effortless for you…

Once you have re-written the repetitive negative thoughts as positive statements, take out a separate sheet of paper or note card, and write at the top, “To master my mind, practice this new train of thoughts,” and then list only the positive statements on that paper or card.

Read your list of new positive thoughts out loud several times each day, and practice thinking your new thoughts throughout your daily life.

I hope this tool for transforming negative thoughts is helpful to you!

Thank you for reading the StarFire Teja Blog!
This post is my 200th post here in 2019!

 

May All Beings Be Free of Suffering.
May All Beings Be Happy!

 

Photo by Jakub Kriz on Unsplash.

 

Frog Medicine

Lately I’ve been feeling drawn to pictures of frogs, so yesterday I pulled out my book about animal medicines. If you don’t already have this classic book and cards set, you might want to check it out. It’s called Medicine Cards: The Discovery of Power Through the Ways of Animals, by Jamie Sams and David Carson, and there are many ways to use it. You can look up animals that appear in your dreams, or ask for guidance with an issue in your life. Years ago, I enjoyed picking an animal for the year on New Year’s Day.

Here are just a few things they say about the cleansing energy of Frog Medicine: “Frog teaches us to honor our tears, for they cleanse the soul…. An ability of Frog medicine people is to give support and energy where it is needed. A Frog medicine person can clean negativity from any environment.” They describe this as replacing mud with clear energy, and stress the importance of “cleansing yourself of any person, place, or thing that does not contribute to your new state of serenity and replenishment.” Doesn’t that sound like the perfect medicine for Spring cleaning?

Do you also love frogs? What animals do you feel drawn to? Please comment down below where it says “Leave a Reply.” I’d love to hear your thoughts on animal medicines.

May All Beings Be Cleansed of Negativity.
May All Beings Be Happy!

 

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How Much Light Do You Have to See By?

 

“Each person is doing the best that they can with the light that they have to see by.”

I can’t remember now if I saw that quote someplace, or if I made it up, but I’ve been saying it to myself for years, and I thought you might also like to say it to yourself. It is helpful to remember when someone is behaving badly.

The light that each person has to see by depends largely on how wounded they are. People who have not healed their wounds are often fumbling in darkness, creating all kinds of coping and defense mechanisms, so their “best” isn’t always so great.

Thinking “Each person is doing the best that they can with the light that they have to see by” will help you to cultivate the compassion vibration, so it will help you to send the person loving energies instead of negative reactions. This also helps you to keep your own vibrations higher in the face of negativity.

How much light do you have to see by? Have you healed your wounds? Do you love yourself? Do you have compassion for yourself? Another way to use the above quote is to extend it to yourself. Whenever you feel badly about something you said or did, try saying to yourself, “I was doing the best I could with the light that I had to see by” and then set an intention to increase the light that you have to see by.

One way to increase your light is to visualize a bright star shining into your mind. Imagine the radiant light of that star beaming into every cell in your brain, and then spreading down through all of the 37.2 trillion cells in your body. Can you feel the love of that light?

May you have a happy week!

May All Beings Know Deep Love.

 

image Courtesy NASA Goddard