Monday Morning Musings on Grief (Again)

 

“The edge of the keenest sorrow wears with time and perhaps Heaven’s kindest gifts to men are sleep for the fleeting cares of the day and forgetfulness for the deep-seated injuries of the heart.”
~ C. Rajagopalachari in his Ramayana

 

Dear readers,

Does that quote resonate with you?

From where I sit with my cuppa black coffee on this rainy morning, I’m not so sure what I think about that quote. Throughout my adult life, I have experienced pretty serious grief a handful of times, and those sorrows did get better with the passing of time (and a lot of crying)… But, tomorrow marks one calendar month since my Dad died, and this grief of losing a parent is a whole new level of emotional pain that I had not experienced before. It is just terrible, and it is difficult to imagine ever feeling better.

One nice feature of this blog is the search box… Last night I typed in the word “grief” and re-read some of my own posts about grief… (And I discovered that I had already written a post with the same title as today’s post, so that’s why I added the word “Again”, smiley face!) If you or someone you know is now grieving, these posts might be helpful so I’ll put the links here ~

~ “Protection Prayer When Grieving

~ “Riding a Grief Wave Successfully

~ “Monday Morning Musings on Grief

One of the stranger aspects of grief is the shock and denial stage. Over this past month, I find that I alternate between the cushion of shock, with thoughts like, “This didn’t really happen… He couldn’t have really died…” and the pain of reality with thoughts like, “His body is buried in the Earth… we will never see him in the physical again…” With regards to this musing, I must say that I much prefer the barrier that the shock provides. When I’m in the shock, the pain softens because everything feels unreal, fuzzy, numb, and even surreal. Even though, in the back of my mind, I know that he really died, the shock makes me feel like it is all a bad dream and soon I will wake up and my Dad will be here like before…

But I am intelligent, so I know logically that he is actually gone forever from the physical realm… Grief definitely muddles the mind! Can you relate?

After my Dad died I took a few weeks off from blogging, and when I returned to my great love of blogging I didn’t know how often I would post… Well, if you’ve been following this blog then you know that I have been posting daily (this is the 11th day in a row)… And I think I need to slow down the pace, because I am feeling pretty overwhelmed. It is natural to feel easily stressed when grieving, so that is why it is recommended to be easy on yourself. Great sorrow requires great self-love and tender self-care. So, I will still be posting here, but I’m really going to try to slow down the pace! 🙂

Thank you so much for reading my musings on grief today. I hope this post is helpful to you or to someone you love.

With much, much love,
StarFire Teja

 

Photo by Gabriele Ibba on Unsplash.

 

The 3 E’s for Working With Your Holiday Emotions

So, dear readers, are you getting your Merry On during this holiday season? Are your nerves feeling frazzled at times? Are you noticing any difficult emotions surfacing or lurking around the edges?

Here is a simple practice for working with your holiday emotions, that I am calling “The 3 E’s” ~

~ Enjoy your happy, merry, cheerful, peaceful, joyful, expanded, and loving emotions.

~ Endure your agitated, irritated, overwhelmed, frustrated, angry, sad, and jealous emotions.

~ Embrace ALL of your emotions, recognizing that they are all simply energies passing through you… They are energies, which are triggered by endless seen and unseen causes! ~ Underneath, behind, and all around these energies is your pure beautiful Self! Embrace yourself as you are in each moment. Look in the mirror and say “I love you” to yourself…

Place one hand on your heart, and visualize healing green energies swirling and pulsing in your vibrant green heart center! Cultivate endless self-love during this holiday season… and beyond.

I hope this post is helpful to you or to someone you love.

With great love,
StarFire Teja

 

Photo of fir tree by Peggy Choucair on Pixabay.

 

Teja’s Virtual Book Launch Week! ~ Reaching for Orange!

Happy Monday, Dear Reader…

Welcome to Virtual Book Launch Week for my new book, Reaching for Orange: Practices, Visualizations, & Blessings to Help You Happy Up Your Life… Now Available for Order on Lulu! (It will be several more weeks until it will be available on Amazon, and it will help me greatly if you will order now on Lulu!) ~ The Facebook Event is being rather glitchy, but I am persevering!

Are you feeling depleted, stressed, or overwhelmed? Are you feeling burnt out or experiencing disharmony with others? Are you upset about the current state of the world? If you answered yes to any of these questions, I wrote this book to be a healing sanctuary for you, and I really hope you enjoy it!

People typically reach outside themselves for happiness and healing. In Reaching for Orange I share tools for reaching inside to replenish yourself and to happy up your life. Through reading this book, you will learn practices to find relief from stress or difficult emotions passing through you, and ways to connect with the Divine Source of healing energies inside you.

From the back cover of Reaching for Orange:

“Reap the benefits of Sister Teja’s many years of daily practices, in-depth studies, and expensive workshops, in the comfort of wherever you are, for only ten dollars. This book was written for people of all faiths by a spiritual helper who is not ordained by any religion, but who is a self-proclaimed nun forging her own Shakahara StarFire Tribe. Teja Shankara is trained in relaxation techniques, guided imagery tools, energy healing, and meditation practices. She is excited to share and to be helpful. Teja prays that this book will help you to happy up your life!”

Please order your copy today! And after you order on Lulu, please leave a comment to let me know that you’ve ordered it… I am really looking forward to hearing about your experience with this book… And perhaps you will consider writing a review after you read it! That would be super awesome!

May you feel happier and happier, every day, in every way!

With Much Love,
Teja

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New Month, New Journal

Wow, I have really been going through the journals this Summer! As I shared in a previous post (“4 Helpful Tips for Looking for a New Doctor”), I have been dealing with some health issues, and when I don’t feel well physically, the combination of being an HSP (Highly Sensitive Person) and feeling sick makes me more prone to feeling overwhelmed. So during those times, I pull even further inside, and I don’t connect much with friends… Thus, I write a lot more in my journal during those times!

Can you relate to this? What do you do when you feel overwhelmed?

How was the month of July for you? Did you write anything down in a journal or calendar?

Yesterday I reviewed my journal and calendar for the month of July, and here are a few highlights ~

~ My mantra was “Calm Down & Happy Up.”

~ Lots of very happy days: feeling happier and happier in my new nun chapter!

~ Thunderstorms and fireworks.

~ Feeling really in alignment with purpose.

~ Realization: My main job is to be happy.

~ I really LOVE blogging… I keep hearing that quote, “Do what you love, and the money will follow.” (Marsha Sinetar) And, my Mom said, “Consider yourself a writer. Period.”

~ Realization: I am really fringe!

~ Super grateful for donations to my work!

~ Enjoying birdsong and bugsong.

~ Put a Sun on it, sunshine girl.

~ Full of happy!

~ Praying for inner peace. One day at a time. Do what I can each day.

So… Now I am looking ahead to this brand new month of August, and here are my keywords: Humility, Patience, and Peace. As I continue blogging and making visits with dying hospice patients, I pray to be humble, patient, and peaceful.

And, once I approve the proofing copy of my new book (arriving in the mail today!), I will enjoy promoting the book (Reaching for Orange: Practices, Visualizations, & Blessings to Help You Happy Up Your Life) and leading healing circles, while feeling humble, patient, and peaceful. I will really enjoy the work, while feeling Happy, Happy, Happy!!!

What are your goals for August? What are your keywords and intentions?

I hope you enjoyed this post.
Happy August to you! 🙂

 

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