Be With Me

Spoiler Alert: Scenes from Star Wars: The Rise of Skywalker are referred to in this post!

In one of the early scenes of Star Wars: The Rise of Skywalker, the heroine Rey is meditating in the forest, where she is levitating with large rocks swirling in the air around her. With eyes closed, she repeats, “Be with me” several times, but then, frustrated, she returns to the ground and says to General Leia, “They’re not with me.”

Rey was referring to the spirits of the Jedi ancestors, who she was calling upon to be with her. I can really relate to that scene and to her frustration, because my Dad died four weeks ago, and I have been calling out to his spirit to please give me some signs that he is still with me…

The Rise of Skywalker is my favorite movie ever. I actually went to see it four times at the theater! The fourth time I saw it, I caught some things that I had not noticed before… Like the voice of Yoda talking to Rey when, in a later scene, she once again says “Be with me” and this time all the Jedi spirits surround her and speak to her… It was so touching to hear Jedi Master Yoda say, “Rise in the Force, Rey.”

That scene gives me hope that if I keep praying and staying open, perhaps my Dad’s spirit will come to me in some way(s)… And actually, yesterday morning I was awakened by the first dream that my Dad has appeared in since he died…

In the dream he was quite startled by every little thing, and he was trying to do something and he was very frustrated by it… He was telling my Mom about it quietly, and she was answering him quietly… and then he began crying and crying, with many tears rolling down his cheeks, and I stood there watching and wanting to help him in some way…

In reality, I never saw my Dad cry, so I’m not sure if the dream was about his spirit being unsettled in the other realms, or if it was just about me and my feelings of anxiety, frustration, and sadness at the suddenness of his death.

“In any case” (as my Dad would often say), I am praying for my Dad’s spirit to be at peace and for him to come to me in signs that bring me peace… “Be with me, dear Dad!”

Dear readers, thank you for witnessing my sorrow and my yearning to connect with my Dad…

May the peace of the forest be with you!

With love and sadness,
StarFire Teja

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Amazing forest photo by jplenio (Johannes Plenio) on Pixabay.

Yoda meme source unknown; it appears on many websites.

 

My Dad Died

Dear readers,

My Dad died yesterday, so I am going to take some time off from blogging for a while…

Thank you so much for reading my posts!

With love, gratitude, and sadness,
Teja

 

Photo by Andy_Bay on Pixabay.

 

The 3 E’s for Working With Your Holiday Emotions

So, dear readers, are you getting your Merry On during this holiday season? Are your nerves feeling frazzled at times? Are you noticing any difficult emotions surfacing or lurking around the edges?

Here is a simple practice for working with your holiday emotions, that I am calling “The 3 E’s” ~

~ Enjoy your happy, merry, cheerful, peaceful, joyful, expanded, and loving emotions.

~ Endure your agitated, irritated, overwhelmed, frustrated, angry, sad, and jealous emotions.

~ Embrace ALL of your emotions, recognizing that they are all simply energies passing through you… They are energies, which are triggered by endless seen and unseen causes! ~ Underneath, behind, and all around these energies is your pure beautiful Self! Embrace yourself as you are in each moment. Look in the mirror and say “I love you” to yourself…

Place one hand on your heart, and visualize healing green energies swirling and pulsing in your vibrant green heart center! Cultivate endless self-love during this holiday season… and beyond.

I hope this post is helpful to you or to someone you love.

With great love,
StarFire Teja

 

Photo of fir tree by Peggy Choucair on Pixabay.

 

StarFire Teja’s Sad Photo Challenge for Suicide Prevention

Today is World Suicide Prevention Day, and I am launching a Sad Photo Challenge. I invite everyone to share photos of themselves crying and/or looking sad, to help those who are suffering in despair to realize that they are not alone in their sadness.

Think about how much we all put on our happy faces for others, especially for social media. I think that as a society we need to allow sadness and realness and authenticity of feelings. I don’t think that we should wallow in sorrow or overindulge in it, but rather, we need to allow sadness to naturally flow through everyone, including men, women, teenagers, and children.

When I took the photo featured in this post (almost ten years ago), I was crying and feeling very, very sad. As I looked in my sad eyes in the mirror, I suddenly became inspired to snap a photo, never dreaming that I would ever show it to anyone! At the time I thought, “Why not capture this sad moment, like I capture all the happy moments?” So now I challenge you to also share a sad photo of yourself, with the caption “I am accepting StarFire Teja’s Sad Photo Challenge for Suicide Prevention.”

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If you’ve been following my blog for a while, then you know that I have been dealing with a Fibromyalgia flare lately, and I have to consistently work to happy up my mind and to keep a good, positive attitude. Well, one night a few weeks ago I dreamt that I walked up to two fellows from my high school class, and I said, “Guys, I’ve come to the end of my rope.”

People who commit suicide have truly come to the end of their ropes. When I say that I would never commit suicide, because I couldn’t do that to my family and friends, and because I don’t believe in killing living beings (which is why I choose a plant-based lifestyle), and then I say “but I am in such despair that I wish I would die of natural causes,” no one is alarmed and sends me to the psych unit because I first stated that I would never commit suicide. Not only are they not alarmed, they might say something like, “sorry you’re having such a hard time,” and then go about their day, without realizing that the despair I’m feeling might be every bit as alarming as the despair of someone who would commit suicide… Perhaps the only difference is that I would not kill myself… But, as I said in my dream, sometimes I feel like I’ve come to the end of my rope…

How can we truly help people who have come to the end of their ropes? I believe we can help through active listening, genuine compassion, and understanding. Even if you have never felt deep despair yourself, you can still listen and try to understand. You can also remind people that they are not alone in their pain. In fact, suicide is among the leading causes of death in the United States, and according to the World Health Organization, “Close to 800,000 people die due to suicide every year, which is one person every 40 seconds. Suicide is a global phenomenon and occurs throughout the lifespan.”

We need to welcome the tears of others and meet them where they are, so that they can feel that where their rope ends, a greater rope begins. We are all connected as part of one continuous energy. We all feel pain. We all want happiness. Not just the human species, but all living beings feel suffering as well as happiness. We are all part of the same rope, and we need to help each other feel that connection to everyone and everything.

If ever you feel that you have come to the end of your rope, please know that you are not ever alone in your pain. Help and connection are always available to you.

For further hope and inspiration, please read my previous post, “It Is Your Duty To Live” and my new book Reaching for Orange: Practices, Visualizations, & Blessings to Help You Happy Up Your Life.

If you live in the United States, you can also call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255. It is available 24 hours everyday. You can also visit the website: SuicidePreventionLifeline.org.

So, will you accept the challenge and share a sad photo of yourself for the world to see? Your sad photo might just help someone in despair to grab onto that greater rope that we all share.

May this post be helpful to many beings.

May All Beings Be Free of Suffering.
May All Beings Be Happy.

 

 

How’s It Going With Your 2019 Goals?

Setting goals is good, but sometimes it can be a set-up for terrible heartbreak, especially if the goals were set too high.

For example, one of my goals this year was to sell 1,809 books by March 31st, which was set too high given the reality that I had no publicist and no budget. Even though I knew it was what some call a “stretch goal,” I’m still feeling a tad sad about it, so I am grateful that I have many tools for working skillfully with difficult emotions.

Are you feeling sad about any of your goals not panning out? If so, you might benefit from using my two best tools for working with the sadness of disappointment: Cultivating the Witness and Practicing Gratitude. Both are described in the extensive list of spiritual practices at the beginning of my book, The Tejaswini Ramayana: The Way of Rama in the Shakahara StarFire Universes.

When re-evaluating goals, it is good to remember that many goals are ever-shifting and evolving. While goals give a sense of direction, the path may change many times. And sometimes it ends up being best to abandon the path of a goal altogether and find a new direction.

So, how’s it going with your 2019 goals?

 

May All Beings Be Free of Suffering.
May All Beings Be Happy!