Last weekend I found out that a guy from my past had died the previous week. I had not spoken with him for three years, during which time I had been holding on to some judgements and disappointments regarding him, but about five months ago I had begun to feel compassion and forgiveness for him in my heart. When I shared that with a dear friend, she replied, “Forgiveness is key to good health.”
My experiences with forgiveness have been similar to my experiences with grief. Both have stages and both come in waves. We can’t really force either one to complete before they are ready to do so, but we can allow them to flow through with grace.
After reading my friend’s words on forgiveness, while lying on the Amethyst Crystal Biomat, a huge wave of forgiveness flowed through me and I spoke these words aloud:
“I forgive everyone. I forgive all of my family and friends for the times I’ve been hurt by them, and I release all of my expectations and attachments which caused me to feel those hurts. I forgive all of my past lovers for the times I was hurt by them, and I release all of my expectations, attachments, and projections which caused me to feel those hurts. I am now married to God and the Spiritual Life and I find my happiness inside, with God. I release and forgive everyone. And, I forgive myself for causing myself pain through expectations and attachments. Now I am enjoying the Happiness and the Radiance of the Spiritual Life.”
I recognize that I am not a perfect being, and that there will likely be more waves of forgiveness work to do, and yet, in this moment, I am resting in the healing grace of Forgiveness. May you also be blessed to experience the healing grace of Forgiveness.
May All Beings Know Deep Peace.
Opposing forces can be simultaneously true within a human being. We are complex creatures, capable of extraordinary phenomena. One of my dearest spiritual teachers, David La Chapelle (who departed from this earthly realm in July 2009), taught that if a person had the capacity for a lot of hope, then that usually meant that they also had the capacity for a lot of despair. Opposites tend to exist simultaneously within a person. To figure out your primary pair of opposing forces, just think about a quality that you often experience, such as excitement, faith, or contentment. Then look at that quality’s polar opposite, such as melancholy, doubt, or restlessness. Can you see how you embody both of those polarities?
For me this concept plays out in the forms of Radiance & Darkness. When I am feeling the happiness of the Spiritual Life, I tend to beam it out in all directions, to many beings, in a Radiance that many people see and comment on. For example, someone might say to me, “Your smile lights up the room.” But the flip side of all my brightness is a tendency to spiral down into dark, negative thoughts. In my darkness, it’s pretty dark. As a highly sensitive person, I experience all of my emotions deeply, including the not-so-fun ones. Fortunately, I have learned many tools for working skillfully with the darkness, such as harnessing the positive powers of my inner coach. Using positive self-talk, I know how to guide my thoughts into a more elevated direction.
At the beginning of my new book, which is a new version of an ancient story from India, I offer a section called “Radiance Rising” in which I share an extensive list of spiritual practices that will help you to work skillfully with any opposing forces within you. To order your copy today, simply click on the book’s title here:
The Tejaswini Ramayana: The Way of Rama in the Shakahara StarFire Universes
Healing Circles with Teja Shankara, author of The Tejaswini Ramayana: The Way of Rama in the Shakahara StarFire Universes
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