Perspective is everything!

The same exact set of circumstances can look differently depending on the color of our glasses.

Today I am looking through happy orange lens, and seeing a bright path of possibilities!

What color are your glasses today?

 

Flower image from pixabay.

What to Do with Difficult Emotions When You Cannot Stop to Tend to Them

Dear readers, today’s post is a follow-up to my blessing on Friday, “May You Be Willing to Do the Work When the Work Shows Up,” in which I wrote about facing your juicy triggers when they arise. That post was oriented towards weekend time, when you have more flexibility to change your plans…

But what do you do when those difficult emotions arise when you have to work or you have an appointment that cannot be rescheduled? I will share a few tips here, and I would love to hear other strategies that work for you…

When you cannot stop to tend to difficult emotions, it is helpful to cultivate the witness consciousness. Harness the observer part of you, and say to yourself, “I see there is a difficult emotion passing through me now.” Take a moment to acknowledge that you do not have time (yet) to address the emotion… Then have your neutral witness part assure the upset part that you will tend to it just as soon as you can…

Another tip is to take short breaks from your obligations in order to have power cries. You know, like a power snack or a power nap, only it is a power cry… Crying, even for a short time, can really help you to let off some steam and to relieve some pressure from those sweet little emotions that you don’t have time (yet) to process… I did this myself many years ago when I was brokenhearted after a relationship ended: during the day at work, I cried hard for 1-2 minutes during each restroom break, and then I returned to my desk smiling…

What do you do when you cannot stop to tend to difficult emotions?

 

Orange tree photo from Free-Photos on Pixabay.

 

 

Spiritual Helper 101 = Tips for Being a Good Friend

As a spiritual helper, I really want to be helpful, so it is important to me that I avoid doing anything that might harm rather than help. However, I am not a saint, and despite my good intentions I sometimes make mistakes.

A few things happened recently that served as good reminders for me as a spiritual helper. I am sharing these reminders with you because they are also basic reminders for being a good friend ~

~ Do not give advice, even if they ask for advice. Instead, keep asking questions and guide them to find their own answers.

~ Do not give opinions or judgments. Instead, suggest that they sit quietly in meditation and listen for their own inner wisdom.

~ After listening and guiding them to find their own insights, you can ask if they would like any suggestions, such as ideas or practices that might help. If they say yes, you can share suggestions, and then ask if those ideas resonate with them.

Do these reminders resonate with you?

Thank you for reading this blog. I really hope the posts are helpful to you!

May All Beings Know Deep Peace.

 

StarFire Teja’s StarFire Friday Blessing: May You Commit to Living Your Ideals

 

May you align with your beliefs and visions.

May you be a resolute person.

May your weekend be blessed with even the smallest ways of contributing something of value.

May you commit to living your ideals.

 

In a recent post (“Half-Way Through 2019: Goals Review Time!”) I shared that for many years on my spiritual journey I straddled two worlds… In one world I wanted to be a nun, and in the other world I wanted to find prince charming. In 2011 I ordered a gold snake ring (with amethyst crystal eyes) and placed it on my wedding ring finger to signify that I was married to Lord Shiva (an aspect of God in the Hindu trinity)… And I wore that ring for five years, during which time I continued dating earthly guys! Finally one of my sons convinced me to take off the ring and surrender to my desire for a partner…

Fast-forward to 2018, when I decided to renounce that desire and go fully for nunhood… One year ago today I put that snake ring back on my wedding ring finger, and for this whole year I have remained resolute in my decision to live in one world rather than straddling two worlds… And it has been hard work to get to where I am now, but it has been worth it. Lately I am feeling happier and happier (knock on wood!), and I am truly enjoying the happiness of the Spiritual Life.

Do you have any inner conflicts about your desires and visions? What are your ideals? What can you do today to live your ideals more fully?

May you feel happier and happier,
every day in every way!

 

The Healing Grace of Forgiveness

Last weekend I found out that a guy from my past had died the previous week. I had not spoken with him for three years, during which time I had been holding on to some judgements and disappointments regarding him, but about five months ago I had begun to feel compassion and forgiveness for him in my heart. When I shared that with a dear friend, she replied, “Forgiveness is key to good health.”

My experiences with forgiveness have been similar to my experiences with grief. Both have stages and both come in waves. We can’t really force either one to complete before they are ready to do so, but we can allow them to flow through with grace.

After reading my friend’s words on forgiveness, while lying on the Amethyst Crystal Biomat, a huge wave of forgiveness flowed through me and I spoke these words aloud:

“I forgive everyone. I forgive all of my family and friends for the times I’ve been hurt by them, and I release all of my expectations and attachments which caused me to feel those hurts. I forgive all of my past lovers for the times I was hurt by them, and I release all of my expectations, attachments, and projections which caused me to feel those hurts. I am now married to God and the Spiritual Life and I find my happiness inside, with God. I release and forgive everyone. And, I forgive myself for causing myself pain through expectations and attachments. Now I am enjoying the Happiness and the Radiance of the Spiritual Life.”

I recognize that I am not a perfect being, and that there will likely be more waves of forgiveness work to do, and yet, in this moment, I am resting in the healing grace of Forgiveness. May you also be blessed to experience the healing grace of Forgiveness.

May All Beings Know Deep Peace.