Riding a Grief Wave Successfully

In my post on Monday (“Writing a Book Strengthens Many Virtues”), I mentioned that while writing my next book (Reaching for Orange: Practices, Visualizations, & Blessings to Help You Happy Up Your Life), more than once I have witnessed myself applying a concept from the book in my life.

So this post is a story of how I rode a grief wave successfully by using some of the very tools I had already written about in the new book!

One evening last month I was suddenly overcome by a huge grief wave over something that happened in my past… I have experienced a lot of grief in my life, but this particular wave was incredibly painful, so much so that I was beginning to feel overwhelmed by the intensity… While I was crying really hard, as if by some Grace from Beyond, I spontaneously began speaking out loud to myself in a very soothing voice… Here is what I said:

“Remember that emotions are just energies… these are big energies, but they are just passing through you… soften, and give them space… allow them to flow through… remember that emotions rise and fall like ocean waves… they won’t take you out… relax into the pain… just let it go through you… you are stronger than the energies that are passing through you… you don’t need to be afraid of these energies… these energies will not overwhelm you if you just soften and allow them to move through… they will shift…”

After coaching myself like that for a while, I stopped crying, and the energies did shift… and I was okay… No, I was more than okay… I was triumphant!

I successfully rode that painful grief wave because I practiced what I preach, so to speak.

Perhaps you might like to print out those words that I spoke to myself, so the next time you feel grief, you can read them aloud to yourself. If you do so, please let me know how it goes…

May All Beings Be Free of Suffering.
May All Beings Be Happy!

 

Photo by Mathias Reding on Unsplash.

 

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Writing a Book Strengthens Many Virtues

Throughout the process of working on my new book, Reaching for Orange: Practices, Visualizations, & Blessings to Help You Happy Up Your Life, I have managed to keep the work in balance with the self-care. Daily spiritual practices have sustained me, and more than once I have witnessed myself applying a concept from the book in my life. (Watch for a future post on that!)

Admittedly, I am currently in a very comfortable living situation, and each week I am only working out in the world a few afternoons as a hospice volunteer… So, I have had the gift of time for keeping the balance with work and self-care. However, my status as a boomeranger at age 49 is not necessarily something to be proud of, and at times it has seriously challenged my sense of self-esteem. It has also given me plenty of opportunities to practice self-compassion, surrender, and humility.

Writing a book also brings opportunities for strengthening many virtues. Over the past few weeks I have faced a few delays to getting my new book published. Naturally those delays are teaching me patience, as well as strengthening my surrender, humility, and self-compassion.

And, a couple of weeks ago I sent an email letter to more than 100 friends and family, explaining that I need approximately $300 more to complete the first phase of launching my new book, and only three people have replied… And only one of them said she is sorry she cannot contribute. Well, needless to say, that experience has been a golden opportunity for strengthening my surrender, humility, self-compassion, and self-love.

The process of writing and publishing a book is a lot of hard work, on many levels. It takes a lot of inner strength. And, it strengthens many virtues!

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May your mind be happy! 🙂

StarFire Teja’s StarFire Friday Blessing: May You Harness the Strength of Your Happy Orange Place Inside

 

May you connect with the strength of your roots.

May you feel at home in the ground of your being.

May your weekend be blessed with reminders of your inner resources.

May you harness the strength of your Happy Orange place inside.

 

Dear readers, as I shared in my June 1st post, “Shifting Focus and Starting Fresh,” I am only blogging occasionally this month of June, so that I can focus primarily on writing the next book… Reaching for Orange: Practices, Visualizations, & Blessings to Help You Happy Up Your Life.

This week I have very much enjoyed working on this next book, and one evening during my sitting meditation practice, I heard: “This book, Reaching for Orange, is going to be life-changing and important for many people.” Well, we shall see if that will be true! In any case, I can hardly wait to share this next book with you! In Reaching for Orange you will learn many ways to harness the strength of your Happy Orange place inside.

As I’m writing Reaching for Orange, in my daily life I am doing many of the practices suggested in the book, so what you will read in its pages is infused with my practical understanding of the information.

My current affirmation comes from a recent blog post, “Guided Imagery for Shifting Negative Thoughts”… I have been saying this daily: “I am on the Sunshine Train… God is driving, and all I have to do is relax in my happy seat, and do some writing, and trust that all is heading in the right direction!”

What are you enjoying this week?
What inner strengths are you celebrating?
What affirmations are you saying?

 

Buddha statue image by mikegi on pixabay.