Teja’s Thesaurus Thursdays

Dear readers,

Recently I pulled my thesaurus off the shelf to make sure I had used a word correctly, and that’s when I saw my Dad’s inscription, for my 35th birthday: “May this book help you in your journey as a wordsmith.” ~ Well, that was a bittersweet moment, since my Dad died suddenly in January, just 4 days before my 50th birthday…

And, it was a good reminder of how helpful a thesaurus can be, which gave me the idea to sometimes (on Thursdays) share interesting tidbits from my thesaurus here…

For example, while looking up the word “shard” my eyes were drawn to the word “sham.” As I read the synonyms, I thought, “Sham, that’s a cool word, I haven’t heard that word in ages.” So then, the next day, I was on a video call with one of my sons, and he used the word “sham”… I told him about my experience with seeing the word sham the night before, and he said, “Funny thing is, I don’t think I’ve ever used that word in my life!”

And then… later that afternoon, I was reading a post about how we need to shut down all the live animal markets to prevent future viruses, and the word “sham” was in the article! After not hearing that word for a long time, it appeared three times within twenty-four hours! Do you ever have that experience, where once you see something then it keeps showing up in your reality?

Yesterday was Earth Day, so I looked up the word “earth” in the thesaurus. I came upon the description for “earthy” and the synonyms surprised me. I have always considered myself to be earthy, so it was funny to see that it also means “unrefined”… I think I prefer one of the other synonyms listed: “elemental”… 🙂

I hope you enjoyed this little Thesaurus Thursday post.

With great love for words and earthiness,
StarFire Teja


Where Do “Don’ts” and “Shoulds” Belong?

Dear readers,

I’m going to be honest with you here. I do not like advice.

I really am not sure when this aversion began, but in recent years I have noticed a growing irritation with being given advice. Can you relate to this?

If I view this through a negative lens, I can see that my “ego” is getting triggered and causing closed-minded reactions. I mean, I used to be much more open to the suggestions of others… Or was I?

Was I actually open, or was I just acting open because it wouldn’t be very “spiritual” of me to not be open to advice? Perhaps with age and experience has come an inability to fake openness…

On the sunny side, if I view this through a positive lens, I can see that I am a very strong, independent woman who likes to figure things out for herself. I like to study situations and do lots of self-inquiry and find my own way. I like to make my own rules and then break them or change them as I feel like it!

So… as this relates to blogging… I think for those of us who feel called to help others (as lightworkers, healers, teachers, etc.), this matter of giving advice is a delicate one. We’ve learned some things and we are burning to share with the hopes that others may benefit… and yet, sometimes there is a fine line between helping and harming. I addressed this topic in a previous post, “Spiritual Helper 101 = Tips for Being a Good Friend.”

When I write blog posts, I really try my utmost to be helpful, by sharing in ways that do not sound like advice-giving. I may fail at this sometimes, but I really do try my best.

Another thing to consider when writing helpful blog posts, is something I learned in hypnotherapy school: the subconscious mind doesn’t hear negatives. So if you say “Don’t focus on the trauma,” the deeper mind does not hear the negative word “don’t,” so it only hears “focus on the trauma.”

This is why the standard instruction for making affirmations is to make your affirmations positive and in the present tense… So instead of saying, “I don’t want to be sad,” you say, “I want to be happy,” or better yet, you say, “I am happy.” When you say that you are happy, in the present tense, the subconscious mind then works hard to make it true already!

What do you think about this topic? Do you think it’s possible to be helpful without giving advice?

With deep respect for the unfolding of your being,
StarFire Teja



Orange wall photo by Alejo Reinoso on Unsplash.


Another StarFire Teja Photo on Pixabay!

Hello everyone,

I’m excited to share that I downloaded this here featured photo from Pixabay… after I uploaded it and they approved it in my portfolio! Oh happy days, it’s the little things that matter the most sometimes!

As I sit here sipping my supreme happy-ing up agent, a.k.a. black coffee, I’m reflecting that even though my Dad died suddenly in January, and even though I’m in Fibromyalgia pain, and even though I have zero savings for the future, and even though the world is going totally nuts in this virus pandemic… I can still get so excited about a photo, and I can still enjoy such happy moments listening to the birdsong and writing this post for you.

Isn’t it astounding how many different emotions we can experience simultaneously?

How are you feeling today? Are you excited about anything?

I hope you enjoyed this little post… And if you missed my post yesterday, be sure to check it out because it includes a video with guided imagery for releasing anxiety. I hope it’s helpful to you!

With zest for life, even amidst the sorrows,
StarFire Teja


Photo by StarFireTeja on Pixabay.


A Shout-Out to WordPress

Dear readers,

I am not getting paid for this post… and, well, I haven’t gotten paid for the other 323 posts I’ve published on this blog either! 🙂 (A while back I shared about my non-salesperson status in a post, “Realizing (Again) That I Am Not a Salesperson!”)

Due to my homebound status (thanks to Fibromyalgia and an Anxiety Disorder), I am not working at a job, but I still want to be of helpful service to others, in ways that are doable for me… And writing helpful blog posts continues to be not only manageable, but quite enjoyable…

Blogging would not be so enjoyable if it weren’t for WordPress. It is so incredibly user-friendly. I am somewhat savvy with computers, and I don’t have much patience for sites that are not easy to navigate. WordPress is truly outstanding in that aspect.

I really love how WordPress sends out notification emails when people like and comment on my posts. And the tagline at the bottom of their emails is pretty witty-adorable: “Thanks for flying with WordPress.com.”

For those who pay for a WordPress plan, live chat support is available from “Happiness Engineers”… How cute is that? On that page, it says, “Our Happiness Engineers can answer any questions that you have about WordPress.com, how it works, and how best to use it.”

Well, since I’m blogging as a helpful service to others and making zero income from it (thusfar), I am not paying for a plan with WordPress, but because WordPress is so well designed, I have not even once needed to ask them for support. That says a lot, doesn’t it?

Thanks for visiting this online StarFire Temple of Happiness. I hope you enjoyed my shout-out to WordPress.

May you be bright, merry, and healthy!

With much gratitude and positive vibes,
StarFire Teja


Photo by mvp on Unsplash.


Prayer for a Pandemic by An Unknown Author

Dear readers, as you look at this photo of a sunny woodland path, I hope you feel cheerfulness of mind and peacefulness of heart…

In these uncertain times, some really potent writings are surfacing, such as the following prayer, written by an unknown author. I wonder why that person chose to remain anonymous?


May we who are merely inconvenienced
Remember those whose lives are at stake.

May we who have no risk factors
Remember those most vulnerable.

May we who have the luxury of working from home
Remember those who must choose between preserving their health or making their rent.

May we who have the flexibility to care for our children when their schools close
Remember those who have no options.

May we who have to cancel our trips
Remember those that have no place to go.

May we who are losing our margin money in the tumult of the economic market
Remember those who have no margin at all.

May we who settle in for a quarantine at home
Remember those who have no home.

During this time when we cannot physically wrap our arms around each other,
Let us yet find ways to be the loving embrace of God to our neighbors.


~ Author Unknown

(This prayer was posted on Facebook on March 12th by Grace United Church in Sarnia, Ontario, Canada… Thanks to my Aunt, Sister Jane, O.S.B., who sent it my way in an email!)

Amen! May we find ways to be the loving embrace of the Divine to each other!

With gratitude and lots of love,
StarFire Teja


Photo by MabelAmber on Pixabay.